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Should I Move or Stay With Boyfriend?

Group Therapy: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

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I have been living in the same city my entire life and have been wanting to move for the past 5 years. Because of work, parents or exes, I have stayed. I am 28 years old and I want to move. This is the time for me to experience a new city and new opportunities. The only thing preventing me from moving is my current boyfriend. We have been together for 2 years and we have a great relationship. I love him so much! I do not want to move and be away from him! But my entire life I have always put others before me, and I have so many regrets. I don't want to have anymore regrets. I do not know what to do! Part of me feels selfish for wanting to move because I could be compromising our relationship. However, the other part of me thinks it is necessary to move. He wants me to go if that makes me happy but he's pretty pessimistic about long distance relationships.

The reason he cannot move right away is because he helps take care of his mom. He told me if I could help him find a job in NYC he would move. But right now his mom and job are holding him back, which I completely understand. Should I wait for him (what if he will never be "ready")? Should I go up there, work and make contacts to help him find a job? Or go up there and have the mentality "if it's meant to be than it will be?"

Another thing I could do is take a 6 month course there and come home afterwards. But what if I love it up there and decide to stay, doesn't that seem deceptive? Ugh, I don't know what to do! Someone please help!!

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