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"What Do I Do About My Boyfriend's Ex?"

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My boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years; we have a great relationship and are very in love. The problem is that he currently lives with his sister whose only friends are his ex-girlfriends or girls who are currently interested in him!

It all started when we first got together. His two most recent ex-girlfriends became her new best friends. They both tried breaking us up, they meddled with our relationship, and they were constantly all over him — definitely attempting to cross some emotional and physical boundaries. They were constantly at his apartment trying to spend time with him — often while intoxicated. My boyfriend told his sister he was uncomfortable with them around, but she wouldn’t listen and they began to gang up on us. His sister is nice, but incredibly inconsiderate once what she wants isn't working out. I cannot even begin to write how much back and forth there was and how many immature games were played; there was so much drama that just thinking about it makes me sick to my stomach. Finally things began to blow over once he realized there was really no compromising with his sister.

Then a few weeks ago his sister threw a party while he and I attended another party elsewhere; he locked his room and asked her not to let anyone in. Somehow one of the previously mentioned ex-girlfriends made it into his room. She lost her virginity in his bed with her new boyfriend, slept there all night, and stole our brand new box of condoms. This, of course, infuriated us both!

So, as if there wasn’t enough drama, a new girl has been thrown into the mix; his sister’s new best friend is one of their co-workers. My boyfriend said he had a suspicion that she was into him because she always follows him around and asks to hang out. I have met her twice and both times she has been way too comfortable around him, hangs on every word he says, and is always making eyes at him — even in front of me! It's obvious that she's into him and if you need more proof, his other co-workers have picked up on it too.

So what do I do? I am so tired of girls who are into him — and often drunk — being at his house constantly. I know he would never cheat on me but I can't deal with this anymore. His sister won’t listen to either of us and it’s ridiculous that he can’t just go home and relax on top of the fact that I always have to be wondering what some gross girl could be up to. I have put up with it for too long and I just don’t know how to handle this anymore. Does anyone have some advice?

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