I am 20, never been in a relationship and rarely catch the attention of guys who are interested in anything serious. The last guy I "dated" convinced me to date him because although I liked him, I was pretty worried about being hurt and was not sure if he only wanted me for sex. We went out twice and when I wouldn't "offer the goods," I never heard from him again. For a while, I was pretty bitter and scorned because it took a lot for me to take a chance and go out with him, and he knew that so I felt pretty betrayed. Initially, I planned to veto all boys and dating and just give up on the whole thing.
I'm the only virgin of my friends, the only one never to be in a relationship, and the only one who is never asked out. However, I really do not want to be alone nor do I want to get to 30 and have my only intimate experiences involve kissing and nothing further. Do you guys have any ideas on how to meet guys and open up a bit more? I'm very guarded so I know that's going to be a struggle. I've considered online dating, but I feel like that would really be accepting defeat.