On a serious note, here is what I am worried about . . . the changing dynamic of our friendship. I'm worried that things won't be the same between us. She's entering a huge new phase of her life. Probably the most important phase of her life . . . and I don't understand it. Because I haven't had a child. I hear so many people talk about how their friendships changed as they remained single and their other friends got married . . . then became parents. And I don't want that to happen to us.
I fully acknowledge things will change though. But I don't want to lose my best friend either. We've maintained a very close and tight friendship despite the fact that we live several hundreds of miles apart. Even though she's married, we've made it through that as well. But I just wonder how her becoming a mother is going to affect things.
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And she and I have talked about this. We're pretty open with each other. She thinks we'll be okay as long as we both realize that things are going to be a little different. She won't be able to jump on a plane and fly down whenever she wants. Our marathon phone conversations will probably turn into a thing of the past. And I'll have to remember that her child comes first (which is completely as is it should be). We've been through some pretty tight situations already and managed not to kill each other. Maybe that means her having a child won't be as big of an issue as I fear?
I know I sound selfish. But like I said, I don't want to lose my best friend. I don't want to see nine years of a wonderful friendship slip into something that's a passing thought. Have any of your been through this? Being single while watching your best friend's life change in ways that you don't understand? Or maybe you're the "with kids" friend and have had to work at maintaining your friendship with your single friends?
I'd just love to hear your thoughts on the subject because uncharted waters scare the heck out of me.