My sister just told me that she is dating a man who has been in and out of prison for 10 years. He's also a sex offender, and I'm worried for her. I've told her that she needs to be careful and to think that maybe he's done more than he's told her.
He had sex with a 15 year old when he was 17 and then was accused of rape after having consensual sex with someone else, and he's also been to prison for stealing a car. He's even told her that it's easier to be in prison because it's so hard to find a job and make a living if you're a felon.
I tried to explain to her what her future is going to be like with this guy, that it would be difficult for him to find a job in the first place and then what if he gets laid-off? He's also not allowed to live within a certain radius from a school, which would mean that he couldn't take their kids to school in the future, and who knows what the rules are regarding playgrounds. I asked her to take a look at her future with him because I think it will be a lot harder than it should be. She keeps choosing to be with guys who aren't good enough for her and I can't figure out why.
To make matters worse, my fiance doesn't want me to spend time with her if she's with him. I understand that it's his protective instinct, but I don't get to see my sister very often and I don't want to make a stipulation that he can't be there. I know I can't live her life for her, but I'm not sure how to broach the subject without alienating her and pushing her away.