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Group Therapy: I Think He Wants to Be More Than FWB

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I have been FWB (friends with benefits) with my best friend of 7 years for the past 6 months. In the beginning we both agreed that we were both a little scared to enter a new relationship due to each of our past breakups, so we agreed to keep it FWB. I guess it's kind of hard to be just FWB with your best friend though, because we are pretty much with each other every day of the week, and pretty much "a couple" in every way possible. (But we still aren't an official couple.)

Lately I've been noticing small things though . . . like one day we were playing around, and he kept adding in "but I love you" to a few things he said. And it's not like he was saying in a joking manner . . . he just kinda kept saying it in a serious way. To be honest, I really do love him, but I ignored him everytime he said it (which kinda would've hurt my feelings if I was the one saying it). Also one day in the car he said, "why do you love me?" and I said "I don't! lol" and he said "yeah I knooooooow. I really don't think you do" and he really kinda sounded sad, even though we were joking around.

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The thing is, I don't want him to assume I'll never open up to him or come around (even though I do love him) and then him move on to another girl. But I'm too afraid to tell him I REALLY do love him, since we had agreed to keep it casual/FWB . . . I don't want to scare him off.

I know actions speak louder than words, and if he didn't want to be with me, he wouldn't want to see me everyday. I just get so down when i think about how he could start looking for a new girl at anytime, since maybe he thinks I don't ever want to be more than FWB with him, or that I would never consider giving him a real chance. (Even though I really don't think he's talking to anyone else . . . I'm just paranoid.)

How can I show him that I really do want to be his girlfriend, without actually coming out and saying it? I'm really love him, and i'm 90% sure he loves me too . . . this is just an awkward situation for me.

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