So the last thing we need is women espousing the idea as "advice" in books like Sugarbabe. Author Holly Hill (a pseudonym) quit her job as a psychoanalyst and put an ad online for a sugar daddy. MSN Glo interviewed her, and she had tips for wives trying to keep their husbands home with fear and jealousy.
- "Don't let yourself go — there is nothing less valued than a commodity that no one else wants."
- Put his wandering eye to work for you, not against you: "That means negotiating some infidelity if you are not 'in the mood.' It does not have to be other lovers: It could be pornography, or a lap dance [at a strip club]."
- "Never cross legs for an extended period without arranging some sort of alternative." (ed. I don't know, either!)
- "Always remind him how valuable you are, how popular you are, and drop subtle hints that other men still find you desirable."
- If you find out he's cheating . . . "harness your jealousy, arrange to meet the woman — you might be able to work together to make your man the happiest guy in the world. What a wonderful thing to do for someone you love."
Just as I wouldn't blame Holly Hill for being the other woman (he's the one with the commitment), I would never blame the person cheated on, whether man or woman. It's only one person's fault, and that's the cheater.