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Sunday Confessional: I Can't Stop Facebook Stalking My Ex

Sunday Confessional: I Can't Stop Facebook Stalking My Ex

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It's been three weeks since we broke up and I just cannot stop looking at his Facebook profile. I keep waiting for him to untag photos of us, or I'm looking for signs of flirting with other girls. What can I do to stop!!?!?


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CoMMember13627090634646 CoMMember13627090634646 6 years
Breakups are hard to do! As far as seeing your ex on Facebook, there's one quick cure! Delete him from your friends list, and block him! In the long run, you'll be glad you did. This obsessing over him is obviously causing you more problems than he's worth! There's a lot of things you can do to help you get over breakups. Do a Google search for, "How to get over a breakup" and you'll find tons of awesome articles. Here's one I really like: http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/ Another thing that has really helped me with breakups is writing a list of pros and cons about your ex, about your relationship, etc. You might be surprised by the results! Anyway, good luck getting over your ex (you can do it!) *HUGS*
Anne26 Anne26 6 years
I used to do that too but then I deleted him. My friends are still friends with him on fb and I go there house and they are on facebook but I guess I don't seem to care anymore because the last thing I care to look at is his page. I even avoid places where he is at because also I don't seem to care where he is at or what he is doing. I guess you can call that moved on. ;-) Yeah delete him. It's not worth your time.
weffie weffie 6 years
I'm with Jennibean5 & Yogaforlife... Get out of the house and have fun meeting new guys. There's no better distraction than a hot new piece!
xgreenfairyx xgreenfairyx 6 years
Lol, you could try not being a crazy obsessive psycho, for starters. It seems like he broke up with you, which is why you're skulking around trying to pry into his life. I don't do social networking sites, but just de-friend him or whatever it is that is equivalent. In other words, do what normal, non-Facebook dorks do...leave him alone.
xgreenfairyx xgreenfairyx 6 years
Lol, you could try not being a crazy obsessive psycho, for starters. It seems like he broke up with you, which is why you're skulking around trying to pry into his life. I don't do social networking sites, but just de-friend him or whatever it is that is equivalent. In other words, do what normal, non-Facebook dorks do...leave him alone.
reesiecup reesiecup 6 years
sometimes it's hard to let go when there's no closure. perhaps you should un-friend him on fb and delete him out of your life. allow your friends to keep you distracted for a while and sooner or later, you'll start to see that breaking up was another experience in your past that you can learn and grow from. the stalking thing will just drive you nuts!
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 6 years
delete him as a friend and start googling that cute guy who you gave your number to last night :-)
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 6 years
Delete him as a friend and block him. If you don't want to do that then everytime you go to look at his page really think about it. remember how it made you feel last time and just tell yourself NO.
Anne26 Anne26 6 years
defriend him and block him. I did it and it helps you move on after time.
mix-tape mix-tape 6 years
I used to check up on my ex every so often but eventually I came to the realization that it was making me more upset about us being apart than anything else in my day to day life. I just used self restraint and stopped looking all together. We're still friends on Facebook, I just hide his newsfeed so I'm not tempted. He tells me he stalks me though. Good! I have a life now and he can be more than jealous of what he lost.
runningesq runningesq 6 years
Hang in there, girlie ((())). three weeks is not a long time... I agree with ^^^. the sooner you can disconnect yourself from him, the sooner you can start healing.
janneth janneth 6 years
Yes, unfriend and self control. You can do it. You will feel so much healthier and on the road to recovery.
plasticine1 plasticine1 6 years
omg!! this has happened to me many many times! but ive gotten better with it. like all said, you need to tell yourself to stop because this is a very harmful habit, in my opinion. when i was a serious internet stalker (before i was paranoid about him knowing that i check his profile atleast twice a day, back in the day of "myspace trackers"), my bad habit was really hurting me because it kept me from moving on. i would get so jealous and so many nasty feelings by doing this, and in a way he was still exerting control over my life. not good.i still do it now (to new boyfriends, ive already forgotten the others i used to stalk obsessively), but ive calmed down a bit. and the great thing is that once you start to forget to even check, youre proud of yourself for not even thinking to check. trust me, you'll lose interest soon, it'll happen, just like getting over someone takes time.
plasticine1 plasticine1 6 years
omg!! this has happened to me many many times! but ive gotten better with it. like all said, you need to tell yourself to stop because this is a very harmful habit, in my opinion. when i was a serious internet stalker (before i was paranoid about him knowing that i check his profile atleast twice a day, back in the day of "myspace trackers"), my bad habit was really hurting me because it kept me from moving on. i would get so jealous and so many nasty feelings by doing this, and in a way he was still exerting control over my life. not good. i still do it now (to new boyfriends, ive already forgotten the others i used to stalk obsessively), but ive calmed down a bit. and the great thing is that once you start to forget to even check, youre proud of yourself for not even thinking to check. trust me, you'll lose interest soon, it'll happen, just like getting over someone takes time.
Hiding55 Hiding55 6 years
You have to defriend him or remove him from your newsfeed so his activities are not right in your face. Even if you block him you can unblock him. It's going to come down to self control. Stepping away from Facebook for a while may be your best bet.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 6 years
Yeah, unfriend him. Just blocking his feed won't work since you can go directly to his profile, but unfriending period is the only way to go cold turkey.
bonchicbongenre bonchicbongenre 6 years
Agree with merie33. Block him!
merie33 merie33 6 years
Delete him from your friends list and put him on your block list. You can't access his profile then unless you unblock him.
dexaholic dexaholic 6 years
How about defriending/unfriending him? That way, even if you wanted to check him out, you wouldn't be able to.
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