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Sunday Confessional: I Feel Stupid

This week's confessional comes from our anonymous Confession Booth group in the TrèsSugar Community. Feel free to weigh in in the comments.

I am still madly, deeply in love with my ex. We were together for a year. It wasn't that we'd fallen out of love or it wasn't working. It was simply because I wanted a commitment and with his job he wanted to wait 10 years. I wish I could have said okay, but I couldn't, I can't. I can't stop running through my mind how it could work, and I come up empty every time. Why does life give us such curve balls? Now he says we have to move on — but my heart can't let go.

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ltoya ltoya 5 years
I realize that you may have been in love with one another but like everyone else above said, you two were on two clearly different pages. You want what you want and so does he. You want to be married and he doesn't, yet. I say move on and find some one who wants the same things in life that you do in the same timeline as yourself. Ask the questions up front before you fall in love next time to avoid heart ache in the end.
Talullah76 Talullah76 6 years
Tough situations prepare us for what's ahead. It'll make sense sooner or later. It always does.
dikke-kus dikke-kus 6 years
Agreed with everyone above. Ten years is a joke. Most psychologists will tell you if a man hasn't asked you to marry him within two years he never will and that there is something about you he doesn't like.
vmruby vmruby 6 years
Why do you feel stupid? You obviously care for him deeply and I don't think what you asked him for was unreasonable at all. No man who truly loves a woman would ever put a job in front of his happiness especially for 10 years. I'm so sorry that you are hurting but honestly you have to see that the writing is on the wall.........heal yourself and move on. He has.There is special somebody out there for you.......This one wasn't meant to be.Good Luck to you!
vmruby vmruby 6 years
Why do you feel stupid? You obviously care for him deeply and I don't think what you asked him for was unreasonable at all. No man who truly loves a woman would ever put a job in front of his happiness especially for 10 years.I'm so sorry that you are hurting but honestly you have to see that the writing is on the wall.........heal yourself and move on. He has.There is special somebody out there for you.......This one wasn't meant to be.Good Luck to you!
runningesq runningesq 6 years
What does he DO for a living ? I agree with Depraved Girl ^^
gummybears123 gummybears123 6 years
10 years! wow that's a long time to wait. u two obviously are on different pages and want different things so it's a good thing you broke up with him. i know it's hard but with time you will feel better.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 6 years
It is OK to feel the way you are feeling, you were in love and you didn't end in bad terms. Try to continue with your life and control your feelings as much as you can, just remember that you wanted different things. Good luck.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 6 years
It is OK to feel the way you are feeling, you were in love and you didn't end in bad terms. Try to continue with your life and control your feelings as much as you can, just remember that you wanted different things. Good luck.
GScott86 GScott86 6 years
Cold turkey and move on. Best thing you can do for yourself. You'll move on. Getting over it? I don't know, moving on, helps getting through it. At least.
Depraved-Girl Depraved-Girl 6 years
Fuck him and his "ten years". And then go fuck someone else.
Depraved-Girl Depraved-Girl 6 years
Fuck him and his "ten years". And then go fuck someone else.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 6 years
I agree with everyone else. You made the right choice.
jenni5 jenni5 6 years
My friend was in a similiar situation and it worked out the same way. But I think it worked out for the best, for her and you. If a guy wants to be with you he's not going to say let's wait 10 years. It may not seem like it now but it just wasn't meant to be.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 6 years
wait 10 years? what kind of job was he in? sounds to me like you dodged a doomed marriage anyway! someone who sacrifices thier happiness that much for a job? isnt worth it.
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