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Sunday Confessional: I Hooked Up With My Ex Who Has a Girlfriend

My ex-boyfriend and I dated extremely seriously for three years. We broke up around this time last year because we realized that we wanted different things out of life. It was an extremely hard breakup, and I had to move in order to get over him and our relationship. I've since regained my life and am feeling much better about our split.

We haven't spoken in months, and I usually do a very good job avoiding him when I come home to visit family and friends. Every year on Thanksgiving, through, my group of friends get together to kind of unwind from a day with the family at our local pub. I went, and my ex was there as well. It was great to see him, but the second we hugged I realized that our connection is still very much there. We chatted alone most of the night, and I found out he has a new girlfriend who was spending the holiday with her family. As the night wore on and the drinks flowed, we slipped back into our old ways and it wasn't long before we walked out of the bar together. Long story short, we spent the night together and it was amazing, but more so because I realized that I just don't love him the way I used to.

Part of me is glad this happened between us, but the other part makes me feel like a terrible person because he has a girlfriend, which makes me the other woman. I have never stood for cheating, but something in me just felt like we needed to do this one last time so I could finally move on for good. Can I be forgiven for having sex with my ex-boyfriend even though he has a new girlfriend?

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dikke-kus dikke-kus 6 years
This is an old story. Two exes meet up. A few old sparks fly and then out of convenience they sleep together. It's really cheap and easy. Like stopping at a 711 so you don't have to drive too far. That's all. Real easy. Selfish. Stupid. Hopefully the morning light made it all seem ridiculous and embarrassing. I tend to say the whole thing stinks. I wonder where the new girlfriend thought he was that night. I hope he digs his own grave with this one.
dikke-kus dikke-kus 6 years
This is an old story. Two exes meet up. A few old sparks fly and then out of convenience they sleep together. It's really cheap and easy. Like stopping at a 711 so you don't have to drive too far. That's all. Real easy. Selfish. Stupid. Hopefully the morning light made it all seem ridiculous and embarrassing. I tend to say the whole thing stinks. I wonder where the new girlfriend thought he was that night. I hope he digs his own grave with this one.
rbebe rbebe 6 years
forgive....he should be asking if he should be granted forgiveness...
cbaby28 cbaby28 6 years
not forgive...you said so yourself you were in a good place in your life so why did you need him one last time to move on?? it was very selfish if you and you're just making mistakes for your awful behavior..not forgive!
myprivatespace myprivatespace 7 years
Forgive. Her past came back to her. It was natural what transpired. The man is guilty here and not the woman. She's single. He should have realized he was cheating on his girlfriend. Of course, if and when his girlfriend finds out, she'll be mad at both of them.. so I say the man is not forgivable, but surely, this female is.
keiraz keiraz 7 years
gr8 sign u still want one another 3 years is not a short time
keiraz keiraz 7 years
gr8 sign u still want one another3 years is not a short time
calli-gurl calli-gurl 7 years
meeshee, just because u cheated it doesnt make it right or forgivable. im sorry but really, it doesnt
calli-gurl calli-gurl 7 years
very selfish, u were thinking about how easy it would be for u to move on. too selfish perhaps. how would u feel if it happened to u? just because u werent in a relationship doesnt give u the right to be with someone u know is it a relationship. it makes u just as bad as the one who cheated. u knew he had a girl, and yet u did it because u felt that it was important for u to move on. in short, ure a selfish bitch
calli-gurl calli-gurl 7 years
very selfish, u were thinking about how easy it would be for u to move on. too selfish perhaps. how would u feel if it happened to u?just because u werent in a relationship doesnt give u the right to be with someone u know is it a relationship. it makes u just as bad as the one who cheated. u knew he had a girl, and yet u did it because u felt that it was important for u to move on. in short, ure a selfish bitch
meeshee meeshee 7 years
Forgive. of course, what she did was horrible.. and very selfish, especially with the attitude in which she posted her question! "we had an amazing night, etc." but i say forgive because people make mistakes. lord knows i have cheated, but felt horrible and am very thankful to have been forgiven. i know she didn't cheat, but she still did something horrible.. it's hard to hear that what you did was horrible and selfish, but it's true. i've cheated as well, and i know how gut wrenching it feels, but you don't display that guilt in your post, which is why all of these ladies are being so hard on you
meeshee meeshee 7 years
Forgive. of course, what she did was horrible.. and very selfish, especially with the attitude in which she posted her question! "we had an amazing night, etc." but i say forgive because people make mistakes. lord knows i have cheated, but felt horrible and am very thankful to have been forgiven. i know she didn't cheat, but she still did something horrible.. it's hard to hear that what you did was horrible and selfish, but it's true. i've cheated as well, and i know how gut wrenching it feels, but you don't display that guilt in your post, which is why all of these ladies are being so hard on you
bchicgrl bchicgrl 7 years
Forgive, it was most definitely wrong what you did but that being said he should have stepped up, been a man, and told you no "i have a gf"
bchicgrl bchicgrl 7 years
Forgive, it was most definitely wrong what you did but that being said he should have stepped up, been a man, and told you no "i have a gf"
356UIK 356UIK 7 years
Well at least you've moved on. Too bad you had to incur such bad karma in order to do so, but there you have it.
partysugar partysugar 7 years
Forgive. I've been in this exact situation, so I say forgive.
Lily-Inferno Lily-Inferno 7 years
Forgive. Shit happens. Learn from your mistake and move on. You know you did wrong, but then again so did he. It happens. I hate that so many ppl on this damn thing are so holier than though and what not. Yea she screwed up. For yes a very selfish reason, but what can you do?
Lily-Inferno Lily-Inferno 7 years
Forgive. Shit happens. Learn from your mistake and move on. You know you did wrong, but then again so did he. It happens. I hate that so many ppl on this damn thing are so holier than though and what not. Yea she screwed up. For yes a very selfish reason, but what can you do?
lacornflakegirl lacornflakegirl 7 years
it's his responsibility to be faithful... you're single! if anyone should feel guilty, it's him. congrats for getting over your ex!
looseseal looseseal 7 years
As long as you feel even a little bad and you're not going to keep on doing this, you're not as bad as those that keep carrying on and on and feel like it's totally their due. So congrats, I guess, it means you're a notch better than bottom-feeding scum. If you're less self-satisfied about this whole thing, it'd put you many notches higher. candance87 is right. Cheaters are more likely to have STDs. Hence, having sex with a cheater = higher probability of getting STDs. Fellow single people: if you're not going to refrain from screwing the "attached" out of common human decency and/or mindfulness of the golden rule, at least refrain because of the increased likelihood of getting a disease (not to mention the extra complications in the event of accidental pregnancy - which as Grandpa so astutely pointed out, is more likely with drunken people involved). Nevermind forgiveness. I'd get a check up if I were you. Chillax about the lack of bashing of the guy. If he was the one who posted and asked for people to excuse his behavior as somehow okay, he'd get a much more severe dressing down, I'm sure. As it is, the OP is the one who's asking, so it makes sense that the responses are directed at her, not him. It doesn't mean the commenters here are all catty beeyotches who'd only bash the woman and let the man get off scot-free. If I ever post on a public forum saying that I'm pretty much mostly happy with myself for having done something that screwed someone else over, I'd fully expect to get smacked down with all sorts of words.
looseseal looseseal 7 years
As long as you feel even a little bad and you're not going to keep on doing this, you're not as bad as those that keep carrying on and on and feel like it's totally their due. So congrats, I guess, it means you're a notch better than bottom-feeding scum. If you're less self-satisfied about this whole thing, it'd put you many notches higher.candance87 is right. Cheaters are more likely to have STDs. Hence, having sex with a cheater = higher probability of getting STDs. Fellow single people: if you're not going to refrain from screwing the "attached" out of common human decency and/or mindfulness of the golden rule, at least refrain because of the increased likelihood of getting a disease (not to mention the extra complications in the event of accidental pregnancy - which as Grandpa so astutely pointed out, is more likely with drunken people involved). Nevermind forgiveness. I'd get a check up if I were you.Chillax about the lack of bashing of the guy. If he was the one who posted and asked for people to excuse his behavior as somehow okay, he'd get a much more severe dressing down, I'm sure. As it is, the OP is the one who's asking, so it makes sense that the responses are directed at her, not him. It doesn't mean the commenters here are all catty beeyotches who'd only bash the woman and let the man get off scot-free.If I ever post on a public forum saying that I'm pretty much mostly happy with myself for having done something that screwed someone else over, I'd fully expect to get smacked down with all sorts of words.
lilCROAT03 lilCROAT03 7 years
gluttonous.
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