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Sunday Confessional: I Lied To Save My Friend Money

I was in the passenger seat driving with my friend and we got into an accident. She hit another car and they are suing her for damages. Her insurance is terrible and she may have to go to court. If she does, she asked me to testify. The problem is that I saw the whole thing and it was her fault. She is claiming the car sped into her when she changed lanes, but actually, she cut them off and never even signaled.

The bottom line is that they need me to testify since I was the only one in the car. I am planning to lie and I feel awful about it, but if I don't, it'll break her financially.

I know that the other couple should really get the money they deserve, without their insurance rates going through the roof, but I feel like I have to help my friend because she can't afford an increase in her insurance policy.

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AmorFati AmorFati 8 years
You're in a tough situation, and you're not acting selfishly. It's very hard when there is a loyalty issue. But I have to vote not forgive. You are letting yourself be manipulated into codependency and it will inevitably bite you in the butt, even as it has already hurt innocent others. Basically she's substituted you for her as the bad guy in this. If you didn't lie for her, she'd have to find some way of wiggling out herself and taking the responsibility for lying. You're indirectly helping her continue in the situation where she can't pay for this. If it were one person who couldn't pay and found a way to get out, I'd actually be more forgiving than in this case where a person has found someone else to be their patsy. She needs to face the music. By shielding her you're making the presumption that eventually you will be rewarded for being such a good friend, which sets both of you up for a rude awakening when she can't reciprocate and you can't take it forever. Been there. I don't want to tell you to judge your friend or turn her in, but you shouldn't lie for her. Not when other people are involved to this extent.
yayita yayita 9 years
this is terrible, I see your point T0xx
t0xxic t0xxic 9 years
WOW I cannot believe how pissed this makes me.
t0xxic t0xxic 9 years
R U FLIPPING KIDDING ME? Im sorry to who ever you are knowing that you are a Popple and this may piss you off but your pissing me off. People like you and your friend are the flipping reason I am in the debt I am in and the condition I am in. If she wasnt a cheap ass an got her self good insurance then she wouldnt be where she is right now. I lost and eye and Im in over my head with medical bill debt bc some jerk off only had liability and and was being a stupid ignorant jack ass of a driver. Be thankfully she didnt kill you or injure you or the other party suck it up and tell her no.
luv_my_junk luv_my_junk 9 years
What your friend has asked you to do is perjury-lie in court; to the judge and (possible) jury and has anyone mentioned 'do you swear to tell the truth, the whole truth, so help you God?' Does jail time sound appealing? It is a bit harsh, but something to think about. Even if you're not Christian-there must be a bit of moral your momma gave you - you're asking our opinions. Please-for the sake of your freedom-don't lie for your friend.
JennaV JennaV 9 years
Whoa...you are actually considering doing this? You know you can go to jail right? Is it worth that? This is a no brainer.
cubadog cubadog 9 years
Do the words insurance fraud mean anything to you? How about perjury and jail? I she that great a friend that you are willing to possibly do jailtime for her.
Padraigin Padraigin 9 years
Not forgivable. No way, no how. She was at fault and you're going to lie for her in a case she couldn't win anyway?
Sica Sica 9 years
Not forgiving. If she was your friend, she would never ask you to lie about it. ______________________________________________ *~*~* S.O.S - My Engagement *~*~* http://teamsugar.com/user/Sica/blog/27904
gossipqueen gossipqueen 9 years
she put YOU in danger.... she put OTHERS in danger... and you're worried about her money situation???? did she at least apologized for risking your life??? would you like if this happens to you and the other party LIES to get away???? This is something you're gonna have to live for the rest of your life...so think about it...CAN YOU?? REALLY???
foo_mf_foo foo_mf_foo 9 years
you don't want to get int trouble so i wouldn't lie!!! i have too much of a conceince
Princess-Lucy Princess-Lucy 9 years
I aswell chose not to forgive you... I'm sorry but you just don't do that! If you go out and lie you risk getting yourself into a lot of trouble with the law.. think about it is it really worth it?
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 9 years
If you lie the court will probably be able to tell you are lying and then you will be in trouble as well. It would be better to tell your friend that although you are sympathetic to her situation, you will not be able to lie about what happened in court. She might be upset, but as your friend, she should understand why you cannot lie for her.
sjpwannabe sjpwannabe 9 years
you never want to lie when it comes to matters of the court, police, insurance, life. lies always will catch up to you. i've never heard of anyone getting away with something. you may get away with this but then something will happen to you later on down the road. it's called karma. it's a bitch.
jennifer76 jennifer76 9 years
LOL, lilren.
lilren lilren 9 years
You seriously want to risk getting in LEGAL trouble for perjuring yourself on the stand? Ask Lil Kim...probably not worth it. Even for a friend.
Moongal Moongal 9 years
i say tell the truth, what comes around goes around, honesty is the best policy here.
Kerri1 Kerri1 9 years
I'm sorry, this is wrong on so many levels... 1) God. You have to swear on a bible. I'm not a religious fanatic but, putting your hand on a bible and swearing to tell the truth so help you God? And lying? Do you see the problem here? 2) Character. Both for her and you. She needs to learn that she has to pay for her mistakes. You own up, you accept your responsibilities and you pay. As for you, thinking that you are helping her by lying for her, is a character flaw with you. You have your own path to take and why mar your own soul for her money. 3) Karma. This will be bad karma. One day you will both pay, but double, because you sent some bad karma out into the world. 4) Jail. Perjury is against the law. Don't make the mistake of thinking that you are doing her a favor. This is a bad choice and you will regret it for the rest of your life.
wynter wynter 9 years
Isn't there a tiny little thing called perjury to worry about? My mom was in a similar accident about two years ago. She didn't go to court, but she was at fault in the accident.
karmasabitch karmasabitch 9 years
Audrey from my past experience, friends testimony doesn't carry much weight at all. Having your license revoked or insurance skyrocket is a good thing for irresponsible drivers. When I was a teen and just starting college I was incredibly irresponsible on the road (I hate to admit :( ) and I ended up going to traffic school twice and had insurance that was through the roof, along with getting in more than a couple accidents. Obviously that was dangerous to myself and to other people on the road and I'm glad that I was sent to court, etc. It scared me and taught me a lesson.. and now I drive like an old woman :) My friends never want me to be the driver because I'm annoyingly cautious LOL.
karmasabitch karmasabitch 9 years
Oh my Lord. I agree with all of you that have said this is unforgivable! She is going to lose the case and you are going to get caught lying, and that is a serious offense that you don't want to get mixed up in! You should really be ashamed of yourself not thinking of the people that your friend hit and the situation they're in. Your friend needs to learn a lesson on how to be fair and honest (you do too, apparently) and how to drive, and hopefully whatever happens as a result of this case will push her in the right direction!
audreystar audreystar 9 years
toro is right. i was in a wreck last year when trying to make a left turn in two way traffic. the girl who hit me was behind someone turning onto the street i was on and switched lanes real quick because she did not want to wait for the turner. she t-boned me and I had no clue she was coming. but needless to say it was my fault because i "failed to yield the right of way". now luckily that intersection has a light that they probably have named after me ;) the girl did not have insurance so even if it had been her fault my insurance would still have to pay my part. i have a hard time believing all this case's investigation hinges on this friends' testimony. that is hard to believe to me.
eye173candy eye173candy 9 years
Think about it this way: what if the poeple your friend hit are more unfinacially stable than her? Tell the truth- I know you feel bad, but lying gets you nowhere. If your friend does not forgive you, then she does not understand how it's the law and she messed up. Live Much.Laugh Often.Love Always ♥
Shiloh-Jolie-Pitt Shiloh-Jolie-Pitt 9 years
Not forgiving at all. Lying is not the right thing to do and you know it. She should be more careful, enabling her now may end up costing her so much more in the future. She could have hurt somebody, and IMO by trying to be a good friend, you'll end up being an accomplice.
atoxicsparkle atoxicsparkle 9 years
who the heck are the 7 people who voted forgive? no conscience, eh?
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