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Sunday Confessional: I Slept With My Ex's Brother!

Sunday Confessional: I Slept With My Ex's Brother!

I have a concern that's been really bothering me. I was going out with this guy for 3 years. He broke up with me about a month ago, and I was pretty heartbroken (obviously), and I still care for him deeply.

A few nights ago, I saw his older brother out at a party. We ended up talking the entire night and getting along really well. He walked me out to my car, and he ended up telling me that he had a huge crush on me, but he could never tell me before because I was dating his brother. Now that his bro broke up with me, he felt he didn't have to hide his feelings anymore.

It was a surprise, but a pleasant one for sure since I was feeling lonely and I kind of liked him too. We ended up kissing, and long story short, he spent the night (and yes, we slept together). In the morning, we promised not to tell anyone, to keep it our little secret.

Well, to make matters more complex, last night my ex called me, going on and on about how he made a huge mistake, how he's still in love with me, and how he feels awful for breaking up with me. He wants to get back together.

What should I do? I still love him and want to get back together, but I fear I will be haunted by this little secret forever. I feel like I should be honest about what happened. Do you think he could ever forgive me for sleeping with his brother?

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calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
if you loved him you would never had done it. ask yourself this, if ure ex slept with your sister while claiming that he was in love with u, would u have forgiven him? OR your sister?if you really wanna be with this dude, be honest with him. and i really dont think that he would forgive u. this was something really slutty. if it was some other random guy, he might have understood. but his brother? i dont think so
calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
if you loved him you would never had done it. ask yourself this, if ure ex slept with your sister while claiming that he was in love with u, would u have forgiven him? OR your sister? if you really wanna be with this dude, be honest with him. and i really dont think that he would forgive u. this was something really slutty. if it was some other random guy, he might have understood. but his brother? i dont think so
herjoiedevivre herjoiedevivre 9 years
I voted not forgive, but only because you should walk away from this. And I personally don't think you're as awful in this situation as the brother is- I mean, he did that to FAMILY. walk away. fresh start.
herjoiedevivre herjoiedevivre 9 years
I voted not forgive, but only because you should walk away from this. And I personally don't think you're as awful in this situation as the brother is- I mean, he did that to FAMILY. walk away. fresh start.
leelah leelah 9 years
Honestly, if you want to be with him, just get back together and never tell him, especially if you don't foresee anything with his brother ever really coming to fruition. Ignorance is bliss, in this case.
7kimba7 7kimba7 9 years
I forgive you since you were broken up. It's not like you cheated on your boyfriend with his brother. But I really doubt he would forgive you... and if you chose not to tell him, I also really doubt that this little secret would never come out. Ditch them both.
7kimba7 7kimba7 9 years
I forgive you since you were broken up. It's not like you cheated on your boyfriend with his brother.But I really doubt he would forgive you... and if you chose not to tell him, I also really doubt that this little secret would never come out.Ditch them both.
jennaboa jennaboa 9 years
I don't think he will forgive you if you don't tell him and he finds out from his brother. It's a bad situation all around, really, but the simple truth is you were single and allowed to be with who you want. It depends on the sort of man your ex is whether he can forgive you for sleeping with his brother.
maplesyrup maplesyrup 9 years
I know that you guys were broken up when you slept with his brother. But, that's still his brother and if it had been any other guy, it's forgivable. But it's HIS BROTHER! We all make mistakes but there are some temptations in life that we just don't tread on and this is one of them. Plus, feeling lonely after a break up doesn't make it okay to sleep with and ex's brother. It's like, your boyfriend sleeping with your mom, sister, or even your brother. How would u feel if the tables were turned? Maybe you'd think it's ok because it didn't happen to you but you wouldn't think it's ok if it really happened. Plus, after you sleep with his brother, how can he trust you around his older brother ever again, especially when the brother revealed how much he had a thing for you. This will only cause alot of hate and anger between those two brothers later on. I think you should do what's right and tell him what you did. If he want's to forgive you, that's great, but I wouldn't have much faith in you after you do something like that. I choose definitely not to forgive you and if i were him, I'd move on from you. And, that's life!
koolkat021 koolkat021 9 years
i wud forgive him but be honest with him, tell him wat happened, and if he cant forget you and his borther in bed then he knows where he can go, and if he can then your in there, and i wud sit them both down and tell his brother that you like him but you dont think it will work anyway due to that you were with his brotheri know wat its like, i dun it, and i hated telling ma ex wat happenedgd luck
koolkat021 koolkat021 9 years
i wud forgive him but be honest with him, tell him wat happened, and if he cant forget you and his borther in bed then he knows where he can go, and if he can then your in there, and i wud sit them both down and tell his brother that you like him but you dont think it will work anyway due to that you were with his brother i know wat its like, i dun it, and i hated telling ma ex wat happened gd luck
Alice-Green Alice-Green 9 years
Dumping.. braking up... Nah, I don't see a difference. If your together for a couple of years there's a trust. If you brake up with someone instead of talking about what you feel and come to a mutual decision, then that trust is no more. As for the relationship between the brothers, that's really their mess and their relationship, not hers. She's doomed if she does the brother but I wouldn't blame her. Really, who am I to blame, I've done my fair share of mistakes, that's called "living" :)
Alice-Green Alice-Green 9 years
Dumping.. braking up... Nah, I don't see a difference. If your together for a couple of years there's a trust. If you brake up with someone instead of talking about what you feel and come to a mutual decision, then that trust is no more.As for the relationship between the brothers, that's really their mess and their relationship, not hers. She's doomed if she does the brother but I wouldn't blame her.Really, who am I to blame, I've done my fair share of mistakes, that's called "living" :)
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
he didn't dump her, he just broke up with her. there is a difference, isn't there? and anyway wasn't the relationship she and the 3 year guy had worth enough to respect it by not bedding another family member? this is SO awful. honestly i'm shocked that so many people think it's okay because she was upset by the break-up. just because you're feeling wronged you don't get a free pass to act poorly yourself.
SexyNeverLeft78 SexyNeverLeft78 9 years
I agree with Marci, it will never work out. You will always wonder if it will come out. You broke up with your ex and although sleeping with his brother within a month of your breakup was a dumb thing to do, u aren't in the wrong for it. It wasn't the best judgement, but I would leave them both alone. After a 3 yr relationship with your ex, u dealt with the family. Nope, leave that mess alone. I fyou still loved your ex, you would have NEVER slept with his brother.lmao @ demeter, I just read your post hahaha
SexyNeverLeft78 SexyNeverLeft78 9 years
I agree with Marci, it will never work out. You will always wonder if it will come out. You broke up with your ex and although sleeping with his brother within a month of your breakup was a dumb thing to do, u aren't in the wrong for it. It wasn't the best judgement, but I would leave them both alone. After a 3 yr relationship with your ex, u dealt with the family. Nope, leave that mess alone. I fyou still loved your ex, you would have NEVER slept with his brother. lmao @ demeter, I just read your post hahaha
demeter demeter 9 years
Oh, and NOT forgive.
demeter demeter 9 years
Oh, and NOT forgive.
demeter demeter 9 years
You should have NEVER slept with his brother! Of all people! You should tell your ex, just to be honest because if he finds out on his own you're screwed. I think you're pretty much screwed anyway though so do what you want. That's just not cool.
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 9 years
I think you should forgive yourself. I mean, the guy dumped you, you don't owe him anything.But if you do decide to get back together with him, you should be honest with him about sleeping with his brother. But I think getting back together is a bad idea.
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 9 years
I think you should forgive yourself. I mean, the guy dumped you, you don't owe him anything. But if you do decide to get back together with him, you should be honest with him about sleeping with his brother. But I think getting back together is a bad idea.
Alice-Green Alice-Green 9 years
DOH!You did the brother, you are doooooomed.Do the brother a few more times, be happy about it, get back in game and ditch them both. The guy DUMPED you! After 3 years! He ain't worth it.
Alice-Green Alice-Green 9 years
DOH! You did the brother, you are doooooomed. Do the brother a few more times, be happy about it, get back in game and ditch them both. The guy DUMPED you! After 3 years! He ain't worth it.
yoan190 yoan190 9 years
Be honest and just hope that he is okay with that.
yrschatool yrschatool 9 years
This is insane. NOT FORGIVE. Of all the guys in the world you had to get into the bed of your ex boyfriend of 3 years? Why would you want to be thought of as a pass around or sloppy seconds?
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