Sorry this is a long rant, but I have to get it out. I never thought this would happen to me. I always thought people made the decision to stray. I’ve been happily married for 20 years, never been tempted, never met anyone I wanted over my husband. Now I’ve met a married man at work who has become a good friend and I have fallen totally head over heels for him. It’s not physical, he’s a little over weight, balding and graying; but we click on a personality level that is uncanny. We talk to each other so much at work people have commented on our friendship. When we’re together we’re always laughing together. I never knew laughter was such a turn on, an aphrodisiac. I’ve only know him for a year, but four months after meeting we were moved to the same building, then he talked me into moving to the empty cube across from him. We now have so much fun talking to each other, having Nerf wars, going to lunch together, etc.
I’m fighting to keep it platonic, but sometimes I just want to tell him how I feel. He has shown me where he lives and we went to the movies one day instead of lunch. He had the rest of the afternoon off that day but I went back to work. While in the parking lot he said he guess he would go and spend a boring afternoon at home. I was too chicken to do anything, I just said "OK, see you tomorrow, I’m going to work." He calls me at least once a day when he is away on business travel; tells me about his flight, what he ate, how the day was, funny things that happen. I’ve started dreaming about him, I’m always thinking about him. Is this normal? I’ve had male co-workers who were friends before, but I’ve never felt this way about any of them. Two previous co-workers are now friends with my husband also. But this relationship is different, he’s so smart, so funny, I feel like he is a long lost friend who I’ve been missing and didn’t know it until I met him. What is going on? Should I try to back away or just deal with my feelings and I’ll get over them with time or what?! Has this ever happened to anyone? How did you get over the feelings?
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