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Sunday Confessional: My Husband Caught Me Masturbating

"My Husband Caught Me Masturbating: Should I Forgive Him?"

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My husband and I have been having a less than happening sex life lately. You see, he just got this new job where he has an hour and a half commute each way, so he has to get up really early in the morning, which means that he also goes to bed earlier than me, so we're on completely different schedules.

The other night, I was taking a late night bath, and I figured it'd be the perfect time to pleasure myself. Normally I don't need to do this, since my husband and I used to have sex at least twice a week, but it had been a couple weeks so I turned off the lights, lit a candle, and got out my waterproof vibrator. I was really careful not to make a noise (I even had it on the lowest setting), but I guess my husband heard. He came into the bathroom, turned on the light and said, "Having fun in there?"

I screamed. I was mortified. I couldn't believe he walked in on me, and then to make matters worse, made a joke about it. I wouldn't even need to be using that device at all if he and I were having sex! Why didn't he just take the hint and join me instead of making that obnoxious comment?

I can't even think about having sex with him right now. I'm slightly embarrassed, but mostly just mad. Should I forgive him for this?

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