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Sunday Confessional: She Fakes It


We're scouring the juicy (but anonymous!) secrets posted on Truu Confessions and letting you weigh in. This week, a confessor admits that although sex feels good, she's still faking orgasms.

"I fake it. The sex feels so good, but I just can't orgasm. What he doesn't know won't hurt him."

Do you think this is a big deal?

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acyl acyl 6 years
Why do you have to fake it? If you don't get there, you don't get there. Just tell your man that you still enjoy sex with him, and that he can learn! Most men are eager to!
sparklestar sparklestar 6 years
No big deal!
sparklestar sparklestar 6 years
No big deal!
Incubuslvr14 Incubuslvr14 6 years
I'm saying it's not a big deal because like many before me have said, some girls have trouble having orgasms (myself included) and I rarely, rarely, if ever orgasm just during sex. Although I would never let my boyfriend know this- it would just devastate him - so I usually fake it. I have had orgasms through other methods so it's not like I'm going without ;)
mira1988 mira1988 6 years
I have faked more times then i can count only because i dont want them to be disapointed
Smilesp Smilesp 6 years
In my opinion, faking it once is a slippery slope. If you fake it, how is your guy going to know what works for you? I guess it's different if you just can't orgasm but I will never fake it.
ella1978 ella1978 6 years
I have to say that I think it COULD be a big deal.If this is someone that you want to have a life long relationship with. It is important that you stop faking and have a talk with him NOW. Part of that relationship is about pleasing each other, and finding the things that work for you both in bed. You can't do that if you are faking, and it could be hurtful to him to find out that you have been faking all this time.However, if it is just a fling and you don't see the relationship going anywhere. I don't think it's a big deal. I feel sorry for you, but I don't think it's outrageous if you don't plan to spend a lot of time with this guy.
ella1978 ella1978 6 years
I have to say that I think it COULD be a big deal. If this is someone that you want to have a life long relationship with. It is important that you stop faking and have a talk with him NOW. Part of that relationship is about pleasing each other, and finding the things that work for you both in bed. You can't do that if you are faking, and it could be hurtful to him to find out that you have been faking all this time. However, if it is just a fling and you don't see the relationship going anywhere. I don't think it's a big deal. I feel sorry for you, but I don't think it's outrageous if you don't plan to spend a lot of time with this guy.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 6 years
It's definitely not a big deal for me. But for the OP, wait a few more years of no-orgasm, maybe then it'll be a big deal for her.
notinthemood notinthemood 6 years
Faking it doesn't do a lot of good... unless your man won't leave you alone "until you come, too" and can't accept that you just aren't in the mood for it. And if that's the case, there are other problems...
fuzzles fuzzles 6 years
I agree with the last part of Igabelis' post. Neither men nor women have a toe-hold on reading minds when it comes to sex and what will please their respective partners. Open communication is essential. To this, a good start may be for the OP to find what makes her peanut butter Skippy---in solo mode. And then, to tell her partner. Will this guarantee an orgasm? No. But it likely will make it much more possible if she is willing to express what she desires. Will it give her partner pleasure knowing what may get her there? A very good possibility. Will this give her a sense of empowerment when it comes to her sexuality? Almost certainly. Gotta like those odds! :D
fuzzles fuzzles 6 years
I agree with the last part of Igabelis' post. Neither men nor women have a toe-hold on reading minds when it comes to sex and what will please their respective partners. Open communication is essential. To this, a good start may be for the OP to find what makes her peanut butter Skippy---in solo mode. And then, to tell her partner. Will this guarantee an orgasm? No. But it likely will make it much more possible if she is willing to express what she desires. Will it give her partner pleasure knowing what may get her there? A very good possibility. Will this give her a sense of empowerment when it comes to her sexuality? Almost certainly. Gotta like those odds! :D
lgabelis lgabelis 6 years
I don't think its a big deal if it is faked from time to time. But you better not fake it the first time, unless of course, you don't plan on sleeping with that guy again. Because you wouldn't want to get into a habit where he doesn't really know what it takes to get you to climax. That could be pretty depressing for your sex life and I'm sure you'd come to resent the guy pretty quickly! In my experience, guys seem to get pleasure knowing you are happy and fulfilled, so I wouldn't worry too much about "taking too long" or being embarrassed...if you aren't comfortable telling a guy what you really want....then maybe you shouldn't be sleeping with him....-LGhttp://lgabelis.blogspot.com/
lgabelis lgabelis 6 years
I don't think its a big deal if it is faked from time to time. But you better not fake it the first time, unless of course, you don't plan on sleeping with that guy again. Because you wouldn't want to get into a habit where he doesn't really know what it takes to get you to climax. That could be pretty depressing for your sex life and I'm sure you'd come to resent the guy pretty quickly! In my experience, guys seem to get pleasure knowing you are happy and fulfilled, so I wouldn't worry too much about "taking too long" or being embarrassed...if you aren't comfortable telling a guy what you really want....then maybe you shouldn't be sleeping with him.... -LG http://lgabelis.blogspot.com/
Pistil Pistil 6 years
It's not a big deal, but I think you are missing out on a huge part of sex with your partner. I'm not just talking about the orgasm, but the intimacy and communication. I faked with an ex-boyfriend. By the end of the relationship I had really grown to resent him. I hated sex. But who was at fault? I never spoke up! Now I'm in a relationship where we talk about things, ask questions about each other. I'm much more familiar with my own body now, and I can take responsibility for my own orgasm, basically. But enough about me... I think honesty can be a great policy, for your sake.
Pistil Pistil 6 years
It's not a big deal, but I think you are missing out on a huge part of sex with your partner. I'm not just talking about the orgasm, but the intimacy and communication. I faked with an ex-boyfriend. By the end of the relationship I had really grown to resent him. I hated sex. But who was at fault? I never spoke up!Now I'm in a relationship where we talk about things, ask questions about each other. I'm much more familiar with my own body now, and I can take responsibility for my own orgasm, basically.But enough about me... I think honesty can be a great policy, for your sake.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
No, it's not a big deal. However, I do feel sorry for the OP. I agree with Tisgirl -- it just doesn't happen for some girls. Oh well.
FabMissToya FabMissToya 6 years
I'm guilty of this
FabMissToya FabMissToya 6 years
I'm guilty of this
fuzzles fuzzles 6 years
From the looks of this picture, girlfriend is going to be sporting a serious case of f*ck knots atop her head come morning! Oh, and talk to your partner. If you don't, you're only cheating yourself. F*ck knots should not be missed.
fuzzles fuzzles 6 years
From the looks of this picture, girlfriend is going to be sporting a serious case of f*ck knots atop her head come morning!Oh, and talk to your partner. If you don't, you're only cheating yourself.F*ck knots should not be missed.
sloane220 sloane220 6 years
i've only ever faked with someone i never wanted to have sex with again. if you're in a committed relationship, this is something that needs to be worked on. talk to him about it, because how long are you going to go on not reaching orgasm?
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