Plenty of folks who see someone out alone have a reaction of sadness and pity. And while there are certainly people out there who could use another friend, I have a lofty theory on these "loners" that manages to blow my friends' minds more often than not: maybe that girl is choosing to hang out by herself.
Those of us who relish "me-time" will agree that in order to really know yourself, it's integral to spend time alone. Before you can be a great member of a group, or a solid counterpart in a relationship, you've got to know who you are, what you like, and be confident with both. Taking yourself out on a date doesn't make you lame or weird, it means you're an independent lady confident in your own company. And I know you'd be hard pressed to find something sexier, or healthier, than that. Not sure where to begin on this one? Here are four fun ideas for taking yourself on a good old-fashioned date.
- Catch a flick. There's something pretty awesome about the collective movie experience, but instead of dragging your man to a film he's not into, or bringing a close girlfriend along for the ride, consider going all by yourself. It's a really interesting experience. One of the best parts? You don't have to share your large tub of theater popcorn and you can put on as much butter as you like.
- Grab dinner by yourself. This is one of the hardest ones for people to do since going out for food is typically associated as being a social activity. But don't knock it until you've tried it. Sitting by yourself at a nice meal can be really relaxing and enjoyable. Be sure not to cop out by being attached to your cell! I know sometimes I grab it to look like I'm doing something or I have someplace important to be. Fight the urge. The feelings and thoughts we try to hide from when we constantly engage with others are exactly what we're trying to bring to the surface here. Chow down on good food and good old-fashioned solitude.
- Hang at home purposefully. Hanging on your own next Friday night should not be your last resort for plans. Maybe you've had a rough week at work or you could use a little TLC. Instead of heading out to a crowded bar and looking for attention and affection, shower yourself in love. Relinquish the hassle of running around, catch up on your TiVo, drink some vino, and order in from your very favorite take-out spot. Sounds like a perfect night to me.
- Picnic it up. Pack your favorite grub, bring your iPod, and enjoy the great outdoors. Instead of looking around or worrying what people are thinking about your solo excursion, plan ahead for activities you love but unfortunately don't make time for. It sounds like you have a great day in store!
Are you a fan of taking yourself on a good old-fashioned date? Add your solo date ideas in the comments below!