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Group Therapy: Talking to Closed Off Boyfriends

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I'm having a huge problem. I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year now and we've had all sorts of communication issues. I cannot get him to talk to me, and it's finally reached a boiling point for me. I've tried almost everything. From yelling, to passive aggressive hints, calmly talking, writing letters, and even writing down a list of things I want to talk to him about. He rarely reciprocates positively to these methods, and most often just not at all. He's just beyond closed off. I also have the issue of him not being truthful with me when I approach him about something at first, only to tell me later a different story about the subject matter. It's led to a huge issue between him and me before.

I understand that as a dating not married/engaged couple we aren't going to have things to talk about everyday, which is fine, I totally understand. I'm a pretty boring person. But I can't hold a conversation with him sometimes. He'll give me a monosyllabic response but turn around and be annoyed with me when I say "OK" in a conversation with no follow-up sentence. Our other problem is we maybe see each other once or twice a week, and our primary mode of conversation is texting. Which he doesn't like, so I have tried to call him at the end of the day to talk to him and he seems totally uninterested in talking to me. I simply just don't know what to do anymore. I've asked him if he's growing bored of me and he said no, but given our past communication issues, I'm not sure I entirely believe him. Don't get me wrong, we get along great when we're together and I do want to be with him.

I just don't know what to do anymore. I've run out of ways to communicate with him and I feel like this is starting to take a toll on my sanity.

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