You may have a vision of Tantric massage — gentle touching, nakedness, feathers, scented oils, silk sheets, and seductive Indian music playing in the background. You're not exactly far off, but there's much more to it than that. Tantric massage was created from the belief that if you're happy sexually, then you'll be healthy. This type of massage is meant to awaken Kundalini, a type of powerful healing energy. It has also been called erotic or sensual massage because it's been known to cause orgasms, but this isn't the goal, and it isn't supposed to involve sex at all. There's a lot of kneading and tickling of the entire body, but it's all in preparation to get the receiver ready for the attention you'll be paying to their special business. Don't think of this as weird, but more as a new kind of foreplay to try, a way to deepen the connection with your honey and to spark your sense of passion. So set aside an hour this week with a bottle of sandalwood-scented massage oil — what have you got to lose?
Dear's Advice: I recommend getting a book such as Tantric Massage: The Erotic Touch of Love ($12). It will help you better understand the massage techniques and concepts. I feel like there's really no wrong way to do it, and if you're wearing next to nothing with your loved one, then nothing but good can come out of it anyway!