Breaking up is like being forced to climb onto an emotional rollercoaster that goes way too fast and lasts far too long. In the midst of all those competing emotions, it’s easy to find yourself obsessing over it. I have a few reminders about those things that might slip your mind in the wake of a difficult breakup. To see them,
- There’s nothing wrong with you, and the fact that you’re no longer in a relationship is not an indicator of your self-worth!
- You really do deserve better — like being in a lasting relationship. No matter what mistakes you may have made, you always deserve to be happy.
- Things weren’t as great as you’re remembering them to be. It’s easy to idealize the things we no longer have, but that doesn’t mean it’s a true reflection of the past.
- You’re right — there is no one like that person, and you’ll never have that relationship again, but you can and will have better!
- It's trite but so true that with every ended relationship you suffer a loss, but also a gain. Not only was the relationship a learning experience, but recovering from a breakup is in itself an amazing (yet painful) time of personal growth.
- It may not seem like it, but others really do understand how you feel, although that doesn’t mean you have to pay attention to their words of wisdom.
- You’re completely justified in your feelings — nothing about breaking up is easy — but you do have to move forward eventually, even if it’s only little by little.
It seems impossible, but you will be happy again. If you can't do anything else, hold on to that one bit of hope and you'll make it through.