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Tips on Meeting Your Significant Other's Family

Tips on Meeting Your Significant Other's Family

Meeting your significant other's family is an exciting time, but it can be really nerve wracking. It's perfectly normal to feel anxious and to hope everything will go smoothly, but just remember that his parents are probably a little nervous and giddy, too. Here are some helpful tips to keep in mind:

  • Don't rush into meeting his family if you're not ready. Even though Christmas is days away and he wants you to come home to meet everyone, only go if you feel it's right.
  • Have your boyfriend show you family pictures so when you meet everyone for the first time, you'll be familiar with their faces, and maybe even impress them by knowing their names. Try to learn a little bit about each family member, too, so you'll have a few topics to chat about.
  • Bring a little gift. It doesn't have to be expensive, just a small gesture to show you care like a bottle of wine or flowers. Trust me, it'll make a great first impression!
  • Compliments are always appreciated, so go ahead and tell his parents what a sweet gentleman their son is. If you're at their house, why not compliment the food and their decorating style as well.
  • Above all, be yourself. Your significant other obviously loves you for who you are, so there's no doubt that they'll love you, too.

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Segat1 Segat1 8 years
Heh this reminds me on Friends when Phoebe dresses all pretty and says in a snotty voice "So, where does everyone summer?"
cheersdahlin cheersdahlin 8 years
DUDE I totally know what your saying about being nerve wracked about gifts when your bf's family is incredibly wealthy. I relate I relate! oh and also I agree completely about the tips...BUT be careful with wine and alchohol just in case someone in his family has an alchohol problem... cause thats awkward...trustme... oy!
cheersdahlin cheersdahlin 8 years
DUDE I totally know what your saying about being nerve wracked about gifts when your bf's family is incredibly wealthy. I relate I relate!oh and also I agree completely about the tips...BUT be careful with wine and alchohol just in case someone in his family has an alchohol problem...cause thats awkward...trustme...oy!
ultimatejas ultimatejas 8 years
I like that you suggested to just say no. Sometimes, the time just isn't right. Christmas is a huge family holiday. I would be less stressed if it was just a family dinner or something...
sweetk8ty76 sweetk8ty76 8 years
Excellent tips, I agree with them all! Gift, compliment, compliment, compliment, relax.
sweetk8ty76 sweetk8ty76 8 years
Excellent tips, I agree with them all!Gift, compliment, compliment, compliment, relax.
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
Always nerve racking but try to just be yourself :)
chakra_healer chakra_healer 8 years
Eat that they eat. Or, at least make a reasonable attempt at doing so. I've seen a few of my SOs brother's GFs (one a potential wife), bite the dust over not liking some of the more exotic Med food (they eat rabbit regularly at weekend dinners). At this point, they know about my allergies, I don't ask what something is and the Mom and Grandmothers like me because I eat without questioning (like their kids, haha). I also cook something special from my culture for them to try every few months. I think it's important to show you can adapt and blend when dealing with different cultures.
chakra_healer chakra_healer 8 years
Eat that they eat. Or, at least make a reasonable attempt at doing so.I've seen a few of my SOs brother's GFs (one a potential wife), bite the dust over not liking some of the more exotic Med food (they eat rabbit regularly at weekend dinners). At this point, they know about my allergies, I don't ask what something is and the Mom and Grandmothers like me because I eat without questioning (like their kids, haha). I also cook something special from my culture for them to try every few months. I think it's important to show you can adapt and blend when dealing with different cultures.
laluna27 laluna27 8 years
I always bring a little gift, even if its not my BF's family, just to make sure they know I appreciate them sharing with me.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
My guy's parents love me because I'm not intimidated by them! They are totally intimidating people. They're millionaires and live in a very posh farmhouse and have like fourteen horses and seven big dogs and the works. It's TERRIFYING, especially since I come from a relatively poor background. So I had to adjust pretty fast. I had to NOT be phased by his mother wearing (around) £12K of diamonds whenever she goes about the house. I had to NOT be phased by the way they alternate their Rolex's or give Mulberry bags as presents. This year has been especially nervewracking. I spend Christmas at theirs (who wouldn't??) and they have a Secret Santa. Me and his mother chose each others straws which means we have £100 to spend on each other (funded by his parents) to buy all of the "stocking" presents. His mother has everything and anything she doesn't have she could afford to buy it. She only eats organic foods, she can't wear perfume and she is intolerant to pretty much everything. So no perfume, no chocolates, no .. anything really. This is a woman who deals in bling and BLING! Thankfully I've managed it with some spare ideas left over. I bought her a big radio controlled model of her car (Range Rover Sport) as the main present and then some nice little extras to go with it. I was sweating it though. I didn't sleep for like 2 nights. So yeah.. don't be intimidated by them?? I know my situation is the exception but it might still apply to somebody!!
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
My guy's parents love me because I'm not intimidated by them!They are totally intimidating people. They're millionaires and live in a very posh farmhouse and have like fourteen horses and seven big dogs and the works. It's TERRIFYING, especially since I come from a relatively poor background.So I had to adjust pretty fast. I had to NOT be phased by his mother wearing (around) £12K of diamonds whenever she goes about the house. I had to NOT be phased by the way they alternate their Rolex's or give Mulberry bags as presents.This year has been especially nervewracking. I spend Christmas at theirs (who wouldn't??) and they have a Secret Santa. Me and his mother chose each others straws which means we have £100 to spend on each other (funded by his parents) to buy all of the "stocking" presents.His mother has everything and anything she doesn't have she could afford to buy it. She only eats organic foods, she can't wear perfume and she is intolerant to pretty much everything. So no perfume, no chocolates, no .. anything really. This is a woman who deals in bling and BLING!Thankfully I've managed it with some spare ideas left over. I bought her a big radio controlled model of her car (Range Rover Sport) as the main present and then some nice little extras to go with it. I was sweating it though. I didn't sleep for like 2 nights.So yeah.. don't be intimidated by them?? I know my situation is the exception but it might still apply to somebody!!
julieulie julieulie 8 years
This made me remember back to the first time I met my fiance's family, shortly after we started dating. I'm not a touchy-feely person, and I come from a very prim and proper family. The first time I met them was at Thanksgiving... I walked in the door, they all grabbed me in these huge bear hugs (I started panicking and couldn't breathe because I hate being touched by people I don't know) and then throughout all of Thanksgiving his family discussed completely inappropriate topics of conversation according to my family standards (think: while eating dinner, discussing bowel movements, flatulence, pubic hair, etc). I was APPALLED. I was so out of my comfort zone, and could not imagine having to deal with it on a regular basis (nothing against families like that, just that I can never assimilate myself) that I almost broke up with my boyfriend afterwards. After all, you don't just marry a guy -- you marry his family. Somehow, I sucked it up and stuck with him, but even now 5 years later, it takes a LOT of mental preparation on my behalf to face his family. They are all so nice and welcoming, but the conversations are just so personal and unappealing to me that I am nervous and on edge the whole time. As a plus, I always lose weight when we go to visit them, since I totally lose my appetite for the entire time we are there based on their discussions!
julieulie julieulie 8 years
This made me remember back to the first time I met my fiance's family, shortly after we started dating. I'm not a touchy-feely person, and I come from a very prim and proper family. The first time I met them was at Thanksgiving... I walked in the door, they all grabbed me in these huge bear hugs (I started panicking and couldn't breathe because I hate being touched by people I don't know) and then throughout all of Thanksgiving his family discussed completely inappropriate topics of conversation according to my family standards (think: while eating dinner, discussing bowel movements, flatulence, pubic hair, etc). I was APPALLED.I was so out of my comfort zone, and could not imagine having to deal with it on a regular basis (nothing against families like that, just that I can never assimilate myself) that I almost broke up with my boyfriend afterwards. After all, you don't just marry a guy -- you marry his family. Somehow, I sucked it up and stuck with him, but even now 5 years later, it takes a LOT of mental preparation on my behalf to face his family. They are all so nice and welcoming, but the conversations are just so personal and unappealing to me that I am nervous and on edge the whole time. As a plus, I always lose weight when we go to visit them, since I totally lose my appetite for the entire time we are there based on their discussions!
facin8me facin8me 8 years
" * Above all, be yourself. Your significant other obviously loves you for who you are, so there's no doubt that they'll love you, too." This advice ignores the fact that some people are just a-holes. Not everybody gets welcomed with open arms by a significant other's family- and a lot of the time it has nothing to do with you. Yes, just be yourself, but also be realistic about the situation.
facin8me facin8me 8 years
" * Above all, be yourself. Your significant other obviously loves you for who you are, so there's no doubt that they'll love you, too."This advice ignores the fact that some people are just a-holes. Not everybody gets welcomed with open arms by a significant other's family- and a lot of the time it has nothing to do with you. Yes, just be yourself, but also be realistic about the situation.
trixiefire trixiefire 8 years
I'm flying across the country to meet my bf's parents for the first time. Ugh. I know I have nothing to be worried about, and yet Im worrying a little, anyway.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
Yes always offer help. And always brings something little, it could be drinks or cookies but BRING SOMETHING!
erratic-assassin erratic-assassin 8 years
be yourself. that's pretty much it. I have a loud mouth and whether they may like me or not (they do), they sure can tolerate me...so that's cool. always be nice to the mom....ALWAYS. offer to help in the kitchen or to clean up. flowers are cool to bring. Ask questions so they see your interest in them (but don't overdo it).
erratic-assassin erratic-assassin 8 years
be yourself.that's pretty much it. I have a loud mouth and whether they may like me or not (they do), they sure can tolerate me...so that's cool. always be nice to the mom....ALWAYS. offer to help in the kitchen or to clean up. flowers are cool to bring. Ask questions so they see your interest in them (but don't overdo it).
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