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Too Far For Long Distance Relationship

"I'm Too Far For My Long Distance Relationship"

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I'm moving this summer to start law school in a different state. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and it's been long distance this entire time. He's been very proud and supportive of my acceptance and this new chapter of my life, but I'm not sure how or where he's going to fit in. He wants to stay where he lives and "commute" to work, that is, fly to Louisiana where I'll be every weekend, and then fly back up north for work during the week. I feel like this is a huge financial burden and a giant potential for stress. I know he wants to be with me and I'm grateful he's willing to put forth that much effort, but I can't help but feel like this is a ridiculous plan.

I love him and I know I want to be with him, but I'm just not sure how to proceed. I did apply to some schools closer to him, but I've either been wait-listed or haven't heard back yet, so Louisiana is looking more and more like my best choice. Should I just resign myself to another three years of long distance, or is there some other plan I haven't thought of? I feel selfish expecting him to quit his job and find one where I'll be living, but the thought of him having this insane schedule or even continuing our current one of seeing each other around twice a month (which will be even harder once I have schoolwork on the weekends and obligations) makes me sick to my stomach. I hate the idea of breaking up with him over this when I truly feel like he's the one for me. I just don't know what to do; any suggestions or ideas would be great!

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