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Too Fast and Too Furious?

Dear Sugar,

I have had a crush on a guy in my social circle for months now and he finally asked me out on a date. After outfit planning and getting pumped up, Friday night arrived. He ended up taking me to a big group dinner with all his guy friends, their wives or serious girlfriends. I was a little weirded out by that, but went along with it in hopes that it would be casual and fun.

Dinner was exactly that. By the time dinner was over, we were both pleasantly buzzed, but he initiated taking the party to another bar. I was up for that, as I was truly enjoying myself, not to mention enjoying all the attention my crush was giving me. Once we arrived at the bar, the drinks began flowing and he proceeded to get a little too tipsy for my liking. As the night wore on, I found myself pushing him off me and starting to get quite annoyed.

When I was ready to call it a night, he basically begged me to stay, proceeded to tell me how much he liked me, and then dropped the L word on me. I was horrified! Not only was he hammered, but telling me how interested he was was just a total turn off. I really liked him before this incident, and up until the bar everything was going great. He just left me a message apologizing for his drunk behavior so should I give him another chance or is he just too available? Disappointed Darby

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Dear Disappointed Darby,

Wow, yea, saying I love you on the first date is quite overwhelming. While most women yearn for their boyfriends to use the L word, there is a time and a place for it, your first date not being one of them. I am sure the only reason why he said those three little words was because he was intoxicated, which I think is the bigger problem here.

While being too available can be a turn off to some women, it sounds like he had just a bit too much truth serum at dinner. Since he left you a message apologizing, I am sure he is extremely embarrassed and is fearful he scared you off.

If you still think there is something there between you two, I would say give him another change. Chalk his loose lips up to nerves and let him take you on a proper date. Hopefully, he will make up for last time, but if he repeats his behavior, you can at least say you tried.

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