I have just realized over the past few days that I could possibly be in love with a good friend of mine. I've known him for a few years and he recently split with his girlfriend (my former best friend) because she was cheating on him.
Once I realized my feelings for him, I wanted to tell him but was never able to muster up the courage. Now, I feel it's too late. The guy that I love has met someone else already. What should I do? Should I tell him how I feel or leave him alone to be happy? Shy Mai
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Dear Shy Mai
TELL HIM! Shout it from the hilltops - and do it NOW. He may have met someone else, but how serious could it possibly be just yet?
Remember this famous kiss between Ross and Rachel on Friends?
It's just like you and your guy friend.
Rachel finally realized how she felt about Ross. She was so excited to tell him that she showed up at the airport to pick him up from China - only to find him getting off of the plane with Julie. She waited too long.
Seeing them together tortured Rachel, but when Ross finally found out, he was able to decide on his own who he wanted to be with .... and he chose Rachel - Yay (happy ending)!
The moral of this story is; Don't make this decision for your friend, let him decide on his own who he wants to date. For all you know, he's been in love with you for years. He could be your "lobster."