After my husband died two years ago in a car accident, I moved in with my brother-in-law with my then-3-year-old son. It was his idea. He said he wanted to be there for his nephew. He has been a great father figure to my son. He has supported me as I've been a stay-at-home mom and got a degree online. And he has been there for me emotionally as I've coped with the death of my husband.
There's only one thing I am unhappy with. I hate, hate, hate it when he brings home women. He is not a man whore or anything. He's had three girlfriends in the two years we've been together. But washing the sheets they had sex on, telling my son he can't play with his uncle because his uncle is in bed with a "guest" at 10:30 a.m., or finding an opened condom wrapper in the kitchen makes me so angry. Last month, my son saw him making out with his casual girlfriend on the couch and asked him what they were doing. My brother-in-law broke up with his girlfriend a couple of weeks ago, but I am sure he will find another one soon enough.
I feel guilty feeling this way because of everything he has done for us. He has a right to a healthy sex life. But I feel like he is being disrespectful to me and hurtful to my son by bringing other women into the house we share.
Has anyone else ever had a living situation like this when they were raising a 5-year-old? How did you deal with it?