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Trusting Men to Take Birth Control

Would You Trust Men to Take Birth Control?

I am more than happy to cede many tasks to men. Big boxes? Pick 'em up. External hard drives? Figure 'em out. Cook dinner? Maybe I'll do the dishes. But I would never trust any man — not a FWB, boyfriend, or husband — with taking birth control.

No matter how much a man loves a woman, it's just not the same. Even if there is nothing sinister going on (i.e. guys who coerce women to stay in relationships by getting them pregnant), their level of unwanted-pregnancy fear is no match for women. Not because they don't care, but because it's not their body. Even women have trouble taking the pill at the same time every day! And, men, if a woman gets pregnant by accident, whose fault do you want it to be?

At least for now, we really don't have to answer this question. Not even the male pill is available in the US yet, but the UK is exploring other options, which are sure to jump the pond if successful. One is the ultrasound blaster, which halts sperm production for six months by sending ultrasound energy waves to testes, and the other is the male injection, a monthly jab in the butt that reduces hormone levels to temporarily block sperm.

Every year it's looking more and more likely that men will soon have equal rights when it comes to birth control; would you hand over the reigns?

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snarkypants snarkypants 5 years
ok, so (nerd alert!) i actually asked my bf about this...he said if it were proven safe, and didn't cause any long-term problems, he would, without a doubt take it every day as directed. and i would believe him. it's really insulting to say that just because the guy isn't the one getting pregnant that he wouldn't care enough to take a pill.
danakscully64 danakscully64 5 years
I would trust MY man.
stephley stephley 5 years
Looking at it from that point of view, doucettr, I’d rather stick with what we know rather than experiment on him.
doucettr doucettr 5 years
I think my biggest issue with men on a birth control method is the long term effects. Women are born with all of their eggs. There are so many studies coming out now about how sperm count in down in young men overall. I would hate to find out that these ultrasound waves or shots would affect their ability in the future to start a family. Infertility is a very stressful obstacle for many people. The issue is so much deeper than just trusting someone to take a method, especially since it is so new.
chequettex chequettex 5 years
I wouldn't trust most men, but I would trust my own husband. Because he's the one who doesn't want me to get pregnant -yet. If we had an "accident" now I'd be on cloud nine and he'd be freaking out wondering how we're going to afford to have a child.
looseseal looseseal 5 years
There's no reason BOTH men and women can't take birth control for double the protection. Honestly, I consider only using one form of birth control too risky. Anything goes wrong with that ONE form of birth control and you're screwed. What a risk to take with something that can ruin your life! The more birth control the better, I say. I'm glad there are more and more options being developed. Birth control for everybody!
juicebox07 juicebox07 5 years
No. Not my boyfriend, at least. I tried a little experiment before when my boyfriend got mad at me for missing a pill. (But let me say, it's very rare that I forget my pill.) I told him to remind me every day around the time I'm supposed to take it just to see if he could remember. He totally failed. He gets too distracted easily.
amber512 amber512 5 years
I think my husband would remember to take it, but I wouldn't want to give up my own control. I'd probably take something too, just in case. But I'm not sure what since I have never been on birth control since I went straight from no sex to TTC.
JennyJK JennyJK 5 years
That's true BW, I guess I hadn't thought of it as a man being so antagonistic as to "blame" me for something. I do feel sorry for someone if that ever happens. I just get frustrated because, well, birth control (mostly talking about the pill here) is extremely effective (nearing perfect, unless you have extenuating circumstances which should be discussed with your Dr.) low cost, and completely available and yet there are so many "surprise" pregnancies and women complaining about how they "just didn't know" that gets to me.
testadura67 testadura67 5 years
It's not that I wouldn't trust him to take it, it's that it's my body and my responsibility. If some women feel comfortable sharing that responsibiltiy with their men, nothing wrong with it, I just feel there's too much at stake to give someone else that power over my body.
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 5 years
Yes, I would trust my guy to take it.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 5 years
I don't think it's very nice to assume that they'll forget any more than women do. The reason some men would rather not wear a condom is because they say it feels better without, so they're willing to take that risk. If there was something like a male pill, they'd have no reason not to take it!
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 5 years
It's not that I wouldn't trust a boyfriend I was in a relationship with, but considering that I'm the one that can get pregnant, I'd like to be the one responsible for preventing that. Whether willingly or unwillingly, what if another guy (besides your boyfriend who is taking birth control) impregnates you? I don't know, it's just something I'd rather take care of since it's my body that the pregnancy happens to.
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 5 years
Good point too Betty...a woman could be completely obsessive about taking their pill at the exact same time every single day.......and still get pregnant. So who's "fault" would it be then?
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 5 years
I guess I'll go out on a limb and say I'd trust my guy to take a pill...but only because he takes other pills so religiously that it wouldn't be a huge deal to him to take another. And he takes the garbage out every week, because he's more sensitive to smells than I am. :) I'm not really a fan of assigning blame to men or women...last I checked it takes an egg AND sperm to create a fetus.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
In defense of forgetful men, the only way I remember my pill is to set my alarm, literally, I can barely be trusted to remember it. Jenny there are two ways around it- the first is the girl forgets her pill, and the second is the fact that birth control isn't 100% effective. Though if you think it's fair for a man to put 100% of the blame on *you* if you ever get pregnant, I guess that's your business.
Pistil Pistil 5 years
I was going to give my boyfriend more credit, but he did forget his lunch this morning. I really don't mind the responsibility of birth control. It doesn't bother me that men don't have the same kind of contraceptive options. I'd still opt to take my pill.
stephley stephley 5 years
Very generally – I think women are seriously catching up in that regard!
stephley stephley 5 years
I'm not married and I too know that you can love someone deeply, and understand that they are flawed. I also know that women can get horny quickly and not think about the consequences of acting without taking necessary precautions. I'm aunt & godmother to at least consequences of moments too intense to interrupt. Honestly, if you think the guy is such a boob (or just so doggone adorably goofy) that he realistically couldn’t be trusted with birth control, I’m not sure he’s worth the effort and certainly not a long term relationship. Accidents happen and they require much more time and attention than an occasional zap, jab or pill.
snarkypants snarkypants 5 years
I dunno about that SKG. My BF is a complete dumb@ss about certain things like remembering to wear a belt, matching his socks, and not locking himself out of his house, but when it comes to something like this, I'm pretty sure he'd remember. But, again, every guy is different. Health/me not being pregnant are two of his major concerns.
stephley stephley 5 years
Should you be having sex with people that you don't trust with something so basic?
JennyJK JennyJK 5 years
I don't think that's sexist at all for saying "whose fault do you want it to be?" How is that offense at all??? You know how sex works ladies!!!!! You are the only one who can take the pill everyday, and the morning after pill. Unless the man is hiding a broken condom from you when your choosing not to take the pill or some other form of birth control it IS your fault. There's no two ways around it.
miriah15 miriah15 5 years
I wouldn't trust them to take it properly...not for a long shot. But it angers me that birth control responsibility (condoms aside) falls entirely on the women's shoulders. Both should be taking something
snarkypants snarkypants 5 years
ps. i am pretty sure there are many BFs who care about whether or not their GFs get pregnant! it not not be their body, but it's their money!!!
snarkypants snarkypants 5 years
"And, men, if a woman gets pregnant by accident, whose fault do you want it to be?" ummmm seriously?
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