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Tweeting Your Miscarriage or Abortion: Good For Women?

When Penelope Trunk, a blogger who shares almost every detail of her life over the Internet, had a miscarriage, she decided to tweet about it. She wrote:

I'm in a board meeting. Having a miscarriage. Thank goodness, because there's a f**ked-up 3-week hoop-jump to have an abortion in Wisconsin.

Writer KJ Dell'Antonia over at Double X thinks Trunk did women a favor with this TMI tweet. She reasons that Trunk should not give her miscarriage, or would-be abortion, different treatment than other events that happen to her. In fact, Dell'Antonia thinks all women should be more open to talking about these issues because pretending that they never happen reserves "a special layer or shame and condemnation for the bodily functions that happen only to women."

So Dell'Antonia says: "go ahead, tweet your abortion" because it's good for womankind. Do you agree?

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biarose biarose 6 years
You obviously haven't heard about the girl who survived an abortion then.
runningesq runningesq 6 years
um, biarose, I'm pretty sure the fetus isn't thrown in the trash. they have laws against that sort of thing.
biarose biarose 6 years
I'm pretty sure an abortion is not a bodily function. I'm thinking that taking a baby out of a woman's uterus and throwing it in the trash is something that has to be carried out by a human, not the body.
Liss1 Liss1 6 years
That is awful!
ali321 ali321 6 years
It's up to her what she posts. I just think it's messed up that it sounds like she's still sitting through the board meeting while having a miscarriage. I realize she wants it, but it's still somewhat of a medical issue. I'm pretty sure they would understand if she got up and left. And to the person who said I was an attention wh*re because I use facebook, you couldn't be further off. I'm a pretty private person and horrible at keeping in touch. I know that facebook isn't close to actually calling people, but it's just easier for me to do it that way. Plus I don't post personal things about myself. I don't think you should generalize so much. If you knew me in real life you would never in a million years make that comment. But what are ya gonna do? People have there opinions.
luna08 luna08 6 years
"inconvenient"! thanks Word spellcheck...going to get more coffee...
luna08 luna08 6 years
She obviously has no discretion (and possibly no heart!), the only thing she's done is make herself look terrible to the world. I'm sure the people she was in that meeting with will be speechless to know that she was sitting in there, relieved to be having a miscarriage because an abortion is soooo incontinent. I've read her blog a little, and some of her articles, she seems like an idiot. I mean,if Yahoo! Financial fires you...
TidalWave TidalWave 6 years
Jazzytummy said, "Any "friend" that you barely know on Facebook....seriously, do you think they really care if you are engaged?" And this is why I'm only facebook friends with people who i think truly care about my lief and who I truly care about their life. So what if i knew someone from hs, if we don't engage in some form of communication on a weekly basis, why should i keep them on my Facebook friends list, letting them know about my life when obviously they don't care. That is just stupid. I never share TMI on facebook but if I were to, only 80 people would see it. (I feel stupid saying "only" 80 people, but since I have the least amount of 'friends' among my friends, i feel it is appropriate)
medenginer medenginer 6 years
She has no tact with her wording. Posting personal information can border on bad judgement depending how it's written. She doesn't know when her TMI will come back to bite her. If she's that concerned that's what group e-mail and in boxes are for. I think she also needs to look into a different form of birth control so this isn't an issue for her again.
missyd missyd 6 years
I'm in the boat that not only is it TMI, it sounded WAY insensitive and made me almost gasp. Who says things like that like 'just another day, another miscarriage' kind of way. STAY in the boardroom while it is happening? Are you crazy? This person sounds a little heartless. And yes I find it a bit disrespectful. As a mother to be I'd be devastated if that happened to me. While I can respect the fact that she did not want to follow through with the pregnancy anyways, this was a human life beginning inside of you, lady. At least show a bit of caring. Maybe you are not regretful, but at least show some respect
jenni5 jenni5 6 years
LMAO Chouette4u. And I agree with you! TMI!!!
FrenchCactus FrenchCactus 6 years
That is fucking sick.
staple-salad staple-salad 6 years
I wouldn't mind if one of my friends Tweeted something like "Had a miscarriage, I need a hug" or "Got back from the abortion clinic, and I feel horrible" but, something like "meh, I'm bored and btw I'm having a miscarriage. Today's great" or something, wouldn't be appropriate. I mean, they AREN'T small events and are often devastating emotionally, so... I think casually Tweeting about them is like saying "my grandpa just broke his hip, this sucks, I have to miss poker night!" It feels insensitive. And if people go into the gritty details, like "Having a miscarriage, this time it's an extra bloody one, I think I saw the baby in it" or something is entirely inappropriate. Like "just took a dump, I looked back and it was really big this time. Kinda smelled like lunch" is inappropriate because, ew. And it doesn't seem respectful to the idea of motherhood.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 6 years
Chouette4u, you make me LMAO. I just don't want to read about that (abortion or miscarriage) on facebook and twitter, hence I don't read/do fb and tweeting. I'm staying away from them. It's totally different though if a good friend of mine came to me and just wanted to talk about her miscarriage or abortion.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 6 years
I am in the minority here, but I think Facebook is actually a way to disconnect from people. No need to actually pick up the phone and talk to someone, either with congratulations or condolences, just put a few words on the internet and you don't have to waste any of your precious time actually talking to the person. The people that truly care for you will be in touch and will know if you are expecting, engaged,or if you have experienced tragedy. Life and communication did exist before Facebook, as hard as that is to believe. Any "friend" that you barely know on Facebook....seriously, do you think they really care if you are engaged? I still say anybody who feels the need to talk about their periods and miscarriages to strangers just needs pity.
Akasha Akasha 6 years
I have to agree that I would not necessarily share my abortion or miscarriage, but when my grandfather died I did put it up on my Facebook because so many of my friends knew my grandfather and I just didn't have it in me to call all of them to tell them. I would on the other hand probably put that I got engaged or that I was pregnant (if I was happy about it) on my Facebook for the same reason, because I don't have to call everyone and tell them. I have also found that when I'm posting extremely happy or sad news it's better to Tweet it or FB it as some people are having bad/good days, and might not want to deal with having to give condolences or congratulations when they are not in the mood.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 6 years
Personally I keep my private matters away from the internet, unless called for. I don't know anyone who would want to know about that sort of thing, unless they directly ask me. Chouette4u, your post was brilliant!
sloane220 sloane220 6 years
i'm ambiavalent about this. on one hand i think the oversharing is going too far, and on the other hand i think we need to get over this puritanical bulls**t where we can't even discuss basic bodily functions that happen to us all without getting squeamish. in this particular situation i think it's going to help women to be able to openly discuss abortions and miscarriages. neither situation has to be a source of shame. an abortion or miscarriage may be a traumatic and sad occasion for some but they definitely shouldn't be shameful occasions for anyone.
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 6 years
I heart Chouette4u. LOVES it.
ECULeah ECULeah 6 years
She's a blogger so she's supposed to write about things to get people talking and keep them interested. I wouldn't post something so personal because I'm a private citizen and don't want my private life on the internet. Some people find writing about situations they're going through therapeutic and if people can relate with her on a issue, it would also be helpful to them. (I can't judge her on what she's going through because I've never been pregnant.) After having said that, I use the 'unfollow' button on Twitter and the 'ignore' and 'defriend' button on Facebook frequently when people constantly update about stuff I don't care about or find offensive.
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