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UK Poll: Some Think Women Deserve Violence Sometimes

Domestic abuse has infiltrated the headlines lately. As we follow the very public saga of Chris Brown and Rihanna, society's attitudes about violence against women have emerged. Sometimes these diverging positions can be shocking.

A new survey conducted by the UK government reveals that one in seven people believe it is acceptable in some circumstances for a man to hit his wife or girlfriend if she is dressed in "sexy or revealing clothes in public."

According to a quarter of those surveyed, sexy dress also should mean that a woman is held partially responsible if she is raped or sexually assaulted. And, about one in seven also said it's fine to slap a wife or girlfriend if she is "nagging."

The majority believe it's never OK to hit a woman. But the fact that many can find a justification for violence proves that there is still a lot of work to be done to keep all women safe.

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Grandpa Grandpa 7 years
Right on hausfrau.
Grandpa Grandpa 7 years
Right on hausfrau.
hausfrau hausfrau 7 years
"STOP! Or I'll call the police!"somehow isn't as effective as "STOP! Or I'll shoot!"
hausfrau hausfrau 7 years
"STOP! Or I'll call the police!" somehow isn't as effective as "STOP! Or I'll shoot!"
hausfrau hausfrau 7 years
Blu - If you have your gun on you, you can get to it in time. If you don't have your gun on you, it does you no good and you should be bonked in the head for not carrying it if you have the permit to do so. Cell phones do you no good when you leave them at home either.Which brings up another good point, which is faster? Me getting to my phone to call the police and wait for them to show or me getting to my gun and ending it right there? I think we both know the answer.
hausfrau hausfrau 7 years
Blu - If you have your gun on you, you can get to it in time. If you don't have your gun on you, it does you no good and you should be bonked in the head for not carrying it if you have the permit to do so. Cell phones do you no good when you leave them at home either. Which brings up another good point, which is faster? Me getting to my phone to call the police and wait for them to show or me getting to my gun and ending it right there? I think we both know the answer.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 7 years
I agree with hypno. Yes you should keep yourself safe, but the kind of clothes you wear have nothing to do with it. From psych class I can tell you that the urge to rape is an internal problem and doesn't have to do with the victim.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 7 years
I agree with hypno. Yes you should keep yourself safe, but the kind of clothes you wear have nothing to do with it. From psych class I can tell you that the urge to rape is an internal problem and doesn't have to do with the victim.
chatondeneige chatondeneige 7 years
bella, no one is saying that anyone deserves it. People are just saying that both women and men should do everything they can to keep themselves safe.
kikidawn kikidawn 7 years
**should have done something different ---- (the second to last sentence)sorry for all the typos, but that was really hard to write.
kikidawn kikidawn 7 years
**should have done something different ---- (the second to last sentence) sorry for all the typos, but that was really hard to write.
kikidawn kikidawn 7 years
***only the two of us in the store - as in employees. The lady at the check out counter was finishing up and leaving the store and no one else was in there after that.
kikidawn kikidawn 7 years
I'm late to the post, but I want to share my story.When I was about 17 I worked at a store. I had a manager who was about 25ish? I flirted off and on with him and he flirted back. One day it was only the two of us in the store. He touched me inappropriately and I didn't really know how to respond. He was doing it while we were both behind the counter and I was actually checking someone out! I went home confused and did not know how to tell my parents or my boyfriend. While I intellectually knew that it was not my fault I still felt guilty - like I had caused it. -- "I shouldn't have flirted" - "I shouldn't have trusted that I was not going to be hurt" - stuff like that. I told my boyfriend (and that made me feel massive amounts of guilt) and he helped me tell my parents. We told the main store manager and the guy was fired and was not allowed to enter the premises again. I don't know what happened on the legal end - I never pressed charges myself so I don't know what the store did exactly.I've healed and hardly ever think about it (haven't in years until this post came up)But what I don't like hearing is that <i>I</i> should have known better - I was 17! Just a kid! Working with a manager who I should have been able to trust! I know it was not my fault, but hearing some stuff makes me feel as though I shouldn't have flirted, I should have done something wrong. I guess by some standards I was stupid and put myself in the situation.
kikidawn kikidawn 7 years
I'm late to the post, but I want to share my story. When I was about 17 I worked at a store. I had a manager who was about 25ish? I flirted off and on with him and he flirted back. One day it was only the two of us in the store. He touched me inappropriately and I didn't really know how to respond. He was doing it while we were both behind the counter and I was actually checking someone out! I went home confused and did not know how to tell my parents or my boyfriend. While I intellectually knew that it was not my fault I still felt guilty - like I had caused it. -- "I shouldn't have flirted" - "I shouldn't have trusted that I was not going to be hurt" - stuff like that. I told my boyfriend (and that made me feel massive amounts of guilt) and he helped me tell my parents. We told the main store manager and the guy was fired and was not allowed to enter the premises again. I don't know what happened on the legal end - I never pressed charges myself so I don't know what the store did exactly. I've healed and hardly ever think about it (haven't in years until this post came up) But what I don't like hearing is that I should have known better - I was 17! Just a kid! Working with a manager who I should have been able to trust! I know it was not my fault, but hearing some stuff makes me feel as though I shouldn't have flirted, I should have done something wrong. I guess by some standards I was stupid and put myself in the situation.
Beauty Beauty 7 years
OK, I know this is yesterday's post, but I had to jump in... NO woman deserves to be raped. No matter what she's wearing, no matter whether she's had too much to drink, no matter if she's been doing some physical things with a partner but wants to stop. The ONLY person to blame for a rape is the rapist. Yes, it's smart to take precautions (which is why I take cabs at night rather than walk home through sketchy nabes) but if a rape does happen, it's never the woman's fault. Ever.
Modus-Vivendi Modus-Vivendi 7 years
I don't mean to sound insensitive or like I'm trying to be funny, but I never get how they come up with those statistics if so much goes unreported.
fcseamstress fcseamstress 7 years
It's sad so many believe this, but I can totally see it. I just recently had a friend who was in a domestic violence situation and she blames herself! The situation was this: She worked with a guy who had a crush on her. She got a new job and on a night her BF was in class late the guy who had the crush wanted to hang out. She got other people to come over (including me) so she wasn't alone with the guy for more than 30 min. When her bf came home, he hit the whiskey and started yelling and screaming. He didn't raise a hand to her, but cops were called. Now she blames herself for his legal troubles! I've told her a dozen times that she should be able to hang out with who she wants, and that it was HIS choice to start yelling and screaming, but she still blames herself. Besides, it wasn't like he caught her in the sack with the other guy...Anyway, I just skimmed the rape comments, and here's some stats for you: 60% of sexual assaults aren't reported to police. 73% of victims know their assailants. Only 6% of rapists will ever do time for their crime.http://www.rainn.org/statisticsWhen it happened to me it was in my own home, not a dark ally. And it was an ex I was talking with about getting back together. I never reported it (family pressure, the guy was a 'friend' of the family) and so he has nothing on his record. And the guy had 150 lbs on me and came up from behind, there was no way I could have stopped him. I was also in a DV situation with another ex who held me by the throat because I wanted to go out without him. Luckily I had other friends around, bit his hand (left a scar!) and they pinned him down until the cops showed up. He apologized years later as part of a 12 step program, but if we'd been alone who knows what he would have done.My point is, with most women in these situations, it's not a dark ally or a stranger. It's people we know and trust, and that makes it infinetly harder to fight back or justify prosecution (in our own minds).
fcseamstress fcseamstress 7 years
It's sad so many believe this, but I can totally see it. I just recently had a friend who was in a domestic violence situation and she blames herself! The situation was this: She worked with a guy who had a crush on her. She got a new job and on a night her BF was in class late the guy who had the crush wanted to hang out. She got other people to come over (including me) so she wasn't alone with the guy for more than 30 min. When her bf came home, he hit the whiskey and started yelling and screaming. He didn't raise a hand to her, but cops were called. Now she blames herself for his legal troubles! I've told her a dozen times that she should be able to hang out with who she wants, and that it was HIS choice to start yelling and screaming, but she still blames herself. Besides, it wasn't like he caught her in the sack with the other guy... Anyway, I just skimmed the rape comments, and here's some stats for you: 60% of sexual assaults aren't reported to police. 73% of victims know their assailants. Only 6% of rapists will ever do time for their crime. http://www.rainn.org/statistics When it happened to me it was in my own home, not a dark ally. And it was an ex I was talking with about getting back together. I never reported it (family pressure, the guy was a 'friend' of the family) and so he has nothing on his record. And the guy had 150 lbs on me and came up from behind, there was no way I could have stopped him. I was also in a DV situation with another ex who held me by the throat because I wanted to go out without him. Luckily I had other friends around, bit his hand (left a scar!) and they pinned him down until the cops showed up. He apologized years later as part of a 12 step program, but if we'd been alone who knows what he would have done. My point is, with most women in these situations, it's not a dark ally or a stranger. It's people we know and trust, and that makes it infinetly harder to fight back or justify prosecution (in our own minds).
Michelann Michelann 7 years
"What I find strange about the gun argument is that most of you assume the potential victim can get to their gun in time"Lili, nobody is assuming. We're hoping.
Michelann Michelann 7 years
"What I find strange about the gun argument is that most of you assume the potential victim can get to their gun in time" Lili, nobody is assuming. We're hoping.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
Additionally, a big part of the reason rape is so under reported is that women are still blamed when they are raped; they are still asked what they could have done differently. I did see that some people mentioned that they would partially blame victims of other crimes as well, but that is rare. On a side note, mace, like guns, can only work if used properly. A lot of crime victims who try to use mace wind up spraying both the perpetrator and themselves.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
Additionally, a big part of the reason rape is so under reported is that women are still blamed when they are raped; they are still asked what they could have done differently. I did see that some people mentioned that they would partially blame victims of other crimes as well, but that is rare. On a side note, mace, like guns, can only work if used properly. A lot of crime victims who try to use mace wind up spraying both the perpetrator and themselves.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
These results sadden me, but what saddens me even more is that some people on here seem to agree. There is a difference between teaching women how to act intelligently and saying they are asking for trouble or are somehow to blame. Also, as others have stated, rape is not about how women are dressed. And, I have to reiterate what tyffi said: The vast majority of rapes are acquaintance rapes, marital rapes, date rapes, etc. A big part of the reason we (as a society) focus on stranger rapes is because we feel much more equipped to protect ourselves against them.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
These results sadden me, but what saddens me even more is that some people on here seem to agree. There is a difference between teaching women how to act intelligently and saying they are asking for trouble or are somehow to blame. Also, as others have stated, rape is not about how women are dressed. And, I have to reiterate what tyffi said: <b>The vast majority of rapes are acquaintance rapes, </b> marital rapes, date rapes, etc. A big part of the reason we (as a society) focus on stranger rapes is because we feel much more equipped to protect ourselves against them.
liliblu liliblu 7 years
What I find strange about the gun argument is that most of you assume the potential victim can get to their gun in time. If you're attacked from behind will you have the gun at the ready? What if your attacker is armed? Violence rarely happens in the scripted way.
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