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Unsolicited Advice From a Friend

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I have a friend who is in college and really likes to go out drinking and partying every weekend. She actually parties so much that she has failed some courses as a result. I am the exact opposite. I like to stay in more and I study a lot and try to get straight As in school. Typical differences between an extrovert and an introvert.

Here's another difference. I am always sure NEVER to give out unsolicited advice. (I would never try to tell her to live her life more like I live mine because I don't think there's a good and a bad way to live your life as long as you aren't hurting anyone.) My friend loves to give me unsolicited advice all the time.

Whenever I see her, she almost always makes a comment that I should really go out and drink more. She seems to think I'm lame for staying in, even though I do go out with friends at least once or twice per week. I'm getting so annoyed at her because she obviously thinks that her way of living is the right way and mine is the wrong way. I really enjoy her friendship, and I don't want to say anything to her that would push her away, but I want her to know that I don't think there's anything wrong with my life, and I'm not looking for any ways to improve at the moment. I understand there is such a thing as branching out and doing different things, and I do that, too, but I am not going to totally change my life just because she thinks that's the correct way to live. Whenever she gives me advice I just try to avoid saying anything much — I'll just say something like "oh" or "hmm."

How do you think I can get her to see my point without causing a conflict?

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