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This or That: A Violation of Your Privacy or of Your Relationship?

After losing your practically perfect roommate of a year — she moved away for grad school — you were stuck looking for someone to sublet the extra room in your apartment. Perhaps out of desperation you made a choice too quickly, and now you're stuck with your current roommate who gets on your nerves. What's worse, she has zero boundaries, which you realize when you come home early from work and catch her in the midst of some unacceptable behavior. Would it be worse if . . .

This: She's in the middle of your bedroom casually browsing through your journal and box of personal items? When you confront her she has the gall to get testy about some of the things you wrote about her.

Or . . .

That: You walk into the living room only to see your boyfriend averting his eyes on the couch while she traipses around completely topless? When you ask her to put on some clothes, she makes a big issue of how she should be allowed to be comfortable in her own home.

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looseseal looseseal 7 years
Nudity doesn't bug me as much as my STUFF being sullied. Besides, if the bf would actually go for anything with a set of boobies, I'd want to find out sooner rather than later. A guy who averts his eyes would make me love him more.
manga manga 7 years
someone going through my journal!!!no way! the topless thing is super annoying and I would tell her to put some damn clothes on.
manga manga 7 years
someone going through my journal!!! no way! the topless thing is super annoying and I would tell her to put some damn clothes on.
ayuninur ayuninur 7 years
both!
ayuninur ayuninur 7 years
both!
skigurl skigurl 7 years
Blackwood, your comment is totally randomit's totally NOT normal to walk aroung topless in front of other people let alone someone else's boyfriendit has nothing to do with you letting your boyfriend hang out there before you get homeit's totally unacceptable and the roomate would obviously only be doing it to get a rise
skigurl skigurl 7 years
Blackwood, your comment is totally random it's totally NOT normal to walk aroung topless in front of other people let alone someone else's boyfriend it has nothing to do with you letting your boyfriend hang out there before you get home it's totally unacceptable and the roomate would obviously only be doing it to get a rise
skigurl skigurl 7 years
the first is worse, because at least your boyfriend was averting his eyes
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 7 years
Id be seriously bugged if someone went through my things. I'd cut a b*tch! Not literally.;)
chicobo chicobo 7 years
The "this" is totally horrible. I close my door all the time and if my roommates came in and made themselves at home, I'd be pissed. Door closed means "do not open" not, see if you can open and find something useful.
vmruby vmruby 7 years
i'm in total agreement with a nonny mouse.......
a-nonny-mouse a-nonny-mouse 7 years
The first is worse. I take my privacy very seriously and would become beastly furious if someone went through my personal items without permission.But (full or partial) nudity should be reserved for bathrooms and bedrooms (when you live with roomies), unless everyone has explicitly agreed to a more open arrangement (with all its many particulars).I also think that Significant People should hang around only when their counterpart is present, unless everyone has universally agreed to a looser, friendlier arrangement.
a-nonny-mouse a-nonny-mouse 7 years
The first is worse. I take my privacy very seriously and would become beastly furious if someone went through my personal items without permission. But (full or partial) nudity should be reserved for bathrooms and bedrooms (when you live with roomies), unless everyone has explicitly agreed to a more open arrangement (with all its many particulars). I also think that Significant People should hang around only when their counterpart is present, unless everyone has universally agreed to a looser, friendlier arrangement.
Rebecca14916991 Rebecca14916991 7 years
I would totally kick her ass for both, but the diary would really clinch it. If it was the topless issue, well, I'm the oldest in a family of all sisters, so I can damn well be her mother and teach her some manners and proper decency if she forces me to treat her that way. But the diary situation... that would not be pretty. I would probably end up physically kicking her out and terminating the subleasing contract immediately (if I had the power to do that).
ummyeaitsmarcie ummyeaitsmarcie 7 years
Hehe, I could deal with the boy one easier cause that's definitely grounds for kicking the crazy woman out. The other is much more personal and would make me feel violated (her running around naked would just push my buttons.)
Blackwood Blackwood 7 years
mmm...you can't fight the second one... if you got the right to have your boyfriend stay at your place even when you're not around... (which by the way I can't get!) why can't she be free to be herself just because you act on your freedom a little too much? (you need to put your feet on the ground and realize that it's her place too... what if she needs to shower, wash her underwear, exercise, study, HAVE HER OWN BOYFRIEND OVER TOO?)I mean... I would understand that you'd expect her to be fully dressed when your boyfriend's there (that's of course reasonable), but she is also right to expect that your boyfriend should be gone the same moment you are as well (which would also reasonable... and polite!)Or maybe she's been always like that, her family was like that and she isn't doing it on purpose, she doesn't see any problems or anthing remotely wrong with that.As for the first option... there's no way around that, that's just plain wrong on every level and under any circumstance.
Blackwood Blackwood 7 years
mmm... you can't fight the second one... if you got the right to have your boyfriend stay at your place even when you're not around... (which by the way I can't get!) why can't she be free to be herself just because you act on your freedom a little too much? (you need to put your feet on the ground and realize that it's her place too... what if she needs to shower, wash her underwear, exercise, study, HAVE HER OWN BOYFRIEND OVER TOO?) I mean... I would understand that you'd expect her to be fully dressed when your boyfriend's there (that's of course reasonable), but she is also right to expect that your boyfriend should be gone the same moment you are as well (which would also reasonable... and polite!) Or maybe she's been always like that, her family was like that and she isn't doing it on purpose, she doesn't see any problems or anthing remotely wrong with that. As for the first option... there's no way around that, that's just plain wrong on every level and under any circumstance.
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 7 years
She would deserve an major a$$whooping either way. However I think it's worse that she goes thru your personal things and then gets pissed at you about the things written about her. WTF?
cubadog cubadog 7 years
I am big on privacy so I would give her 30 days to get her crap out of the apartment. The boyfriend thing is annoying but I would just tell her to go get her own home to walk around naked in!
Fallen85 Fallen85 7 years
I'd kick her ass for both but going through my personal stuff and then getting mad at me for something I wrote about her is worse, and totally insane. I would rip her face off and start throwing all of her shit outside of the apartment.. actually.. I would probably do that for both situations but at least if she was walking around topless in front of my boyfriend he would agree she was totally bonkers. I trust my man, it would just solidify the idea that she's a nutcase. Buh bye now, dont let the door hit you on the way out!
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