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Group Therapy: Wanting a Love Connection This Holiday Season

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

Holiday season . . . doesn't it make you want to fall or be in love?! Or at least start a connection. Specifically with this guy who lives in the same building I do, whose parking spot in the garage is adjacent to mine, and with whom I cross paths once in a while either in the lobby or the garage. We'd always say "Hi, how are you?" but nothing substantial beyond that. I only started to notice him more recently and I have to admit I have inevitably grown to like this guy. Now, I could just be misreading signals and whatnot but something tells me that it's possible that he likes me too. He just couldn't find the chance to strike up a convo with me.

You see, for financial and cultural reasons, I live with my mom (well, vice versa because I pay the rent, lol!). And on some of the occasion that bumped into this guy I was with her hence, probably a little awkward to exchange a few more lines than hi-hello and perhaps names/numbers. And on the few occasions that I'm alone when I see him, I'm either in a hurry to get to my apartment and grab some grub and my stuff before heading out again for my evening class or just too tired from work to even utter a full sentence to him. But I'm really itching to at least know his name and let him know mine, and maybe, just maybe, eventually hang out.

Anyway, with the holiday season in the air, this might be the perfect opportunity to be bold and make the move (I'm not the type to do so). I was thinking of leaving a friendly holiday card on his windshield. Something that goes along the lines of, "Hi Volvo neighbor! We seem to always be rushing to get to our destinations so for this holiday season, I want to take some time to give you my warm wishes. Happy Holidays! From your Scion neighbor."

Now, the only reason I used our cars are for points of reference. Like I said, our cars are adjacent to each other in the garage and that's the only thing I know about him and vice versa. And obviously, I can sign my name on the card but I was thinking that wouldn't be fair — he'd already know my name and what if it turns out he actually wasn't interested in me and so won't even make an effort to acknowledge my card. That would be so embarrassing! The last thing I want to do is make a fool of myself in his eyes. Plus, keeping it partly anonymous adds to the mystery. The more I think about it though, the more I'm beginning to see it as an absurd idea and one that could just make me appear needy or, like I mentioned, foolish. What's your opinion?

Thanks in advance and HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

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