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We Had Sex, and Now He's Avoiding Me

"We Had Sex, and Now He Avoids Me"

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I have been dating this guy for a few months now, and before then we were good friends. We met at the workplace, and yes, I am currently looking for other employment (due to a new scheduling conflict with school). We decided to date, and things were going well. He always initiated the calls and text messages and invited me out.

I know he has a lot on his plate, with his job, his son, his overbearing parents. I am a patient person and I am a firm believer that respecting someone's life is essential. Things were starting to steam up with us, and he told me that he didn't want the sex to change anything because I am special to him and that he wanted to put his best foot forward.

We had sex, and things were fine afterward. A few days later he canceled our day date for the weekend, said he had a lot of things to take care of. I understood and left it alone. On Friday, we started exchanging some flirty texts, and the next thing you know, he invites me out for dinner.

We had dinner, and the entire time he tells me he can't believe that I convinced him but that he is happy I did. He asked me to spend the night, and we had sex for the second time. The sex is great, and he invited me to breakfast in the morning. Everything seemed great. We laughed, had a good time.

I didn't really hear too much from him over the weekend — just a few updates and asking how I was doing. On Monday I saw him and waved hello, and then he proceeded to avoid me like the plague. He sent me a message later on, letting me know that he is overwhelmed with what happened on Friday night and Saturday morning and just feels out of sorts. I then asked him if he needed some space, to which he replied, "I don't know. I guess." So I let him know that I respect what he is feeling and to take all the space and time he needs to figure things out, that when he is ready to talk, we can, and that it's not a problem. He said, "Thank you," and I said, "You're welcome," and we haven't spoken since.

I know sometimes guys say things so they can let down a woman gently. I'm wondering if this is a clear sign that I should move on or sit tight.

Thanks for the comments!

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