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Wedding Day Blues

Here's a post from OnSugar blog Rantings of a Single Girl.

I spent Valentine's Day at a wedding. While I think V-day weddings are cheesy and totally over the top, that isn't what bugged me about this particular wedding. It's that it was on a Sunday. Considering I had to drive three hours to attend this wedding, the fact that the wedding was on a Sunday was a little inconvenient.

An early evening wedding on a Sunday. To me it just isn't polite to your guests. I know your wedding day is supposed to be all about you and your commitment to your groom and all, but sometimes you have to take into consideration the fact that some people might have to travel for your wedding. (And before you say I didn't have to go to the wedding, I kind of did. It was family.)

Now, I know certain cultures have traditions, that you have to get married on certain days. I get that. But if you don't, then to me, Friday or Saturday is a good day to have a wedding. Preferably Saturday. It's just easier on guests and possible wedding party members that will need to travel, especially when you are letting your guest know only three weeks in advance. (Another issue I had with this wedding, but I'll only tackle one thing at a time.) Plus every wedding I've ever been to has been on a Saturday, because it's just easier on everyone involved.

So what do you think? Is it inconsiderate to have a wedding (that doesn't have to adhere to cultural traditions) on any day other than a Friday or Saturday?

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danakscully64 danakscully64 6 years
I personally don't understand the point of getting 3 gifts for the bride and groom. I've honestly never been to a shower AND bachlorette party, I think it would be a bit much if the bride and groom expected gifts at all 3. Really though, with a Sunday wedding, the guests maybe take one day off if they have to travel (unless the Sunday wedding is in the morning/early afternoon and you can get a flight at night), but doesn't that apply to many Saturday weddings too? I know people who flew in for events who had to leave Friday morning or afternoon to get there on time to get a hotel to drop off their things so they could get sleep before the wedding the next morning. Sunday makes as much sense as a Saturday wedding. With a Sunday wedding, you have Saturday to travel in. With Saturday, you have Friday. I wouldn't mind flying in for a Sunday wedding.
danakscully64 danakscully64 6 years
I personally don't understand the point of getting 3 gifts for the bride and groom. I've honestly never been to a shower AND bachlorette party, I think it would be a bit much if the bride and groom expected gifts at all 3.Really though, with a Sunday wedding, the guests maybe take one day off if they have to travel (unless the Sunday wedding is in the morning/early afternoon and you can get a flight at night), but doesn't that apply to many Saturday weddings too? I know people who flew in for events who had to leave Friday morning or afternoon to get there on time to get a hotel to drop off their things so they could get sleep before the wedding the next morning. Sunday makes as much sense as a Saturday wedding. With a Sunday wedding, you have Saturday to travel in. With Saturday, you have Friday. I wouldn't mind flying in for a Sunday wedding.
danakscully64 danakscully64 6 years
I'm on Team Any Day of The Week, I Appreciate the Invite :) Especially now with money being tight, I completely understand a couple choosing a Sunday or even a Friday wedding. Really, the bride and groom aren't TRYING to make things difficult for their guests, but they're doing the best they can do. If you really can't go, don't. I'm not a fan of holiday weddings though (V-Day/Presidents Day isn't a huge deal). Often the guests who are flying in or staying in hotels have to pay WAY more than average, sometimes more than double. My guy's cousin decided to get married on Mother's Day, then decided to move it to Memorial Day weekend (my birthday was that Monday). The airport was nuts and my guy had to pay about $200 more for his flight. His Aunt and Uncle own a hotel, so he didn't have to pay for that, but it would have been a lot (car rental too). The crazy airports caused lots of delays on Monday and he didn't make it home until 9pm, missed my whole birthday. Overall, bad idea if you know people are flying in (strapped for cash), it just costs a heck of a lot more for them and they may get delayed at the airport.
danakscully64 danakscully64 6 years
I'm on Team Any Day of The Week, I Appreciate the Invite :) Especially now with money being tight, I completely understand a couple choosing a Sunday or even a Friday wedding. Really, the bride and groom aren't TRYING to make things difficult for their guests, but they're doing the best they can do. If you really can't go, don't.I'm not a fan of holiday weddings though (V-Day/Presidents Day isn't a huge deal). Often the guests who are flying in or staying in hotels have to pay WAY more than average, sometimes more than double. My guy's cousin decided to get married on Mother's Day, then decided to move it to Memorial Day weekend (my birthday was that Monday). The airport was nuts and my guy had to pay about $200 more for his flight. His Aunt and Uncle own a hotel, so he didn't have to pay for that, but it would have been a lot (car rental too). The crazy airports caused lots of delays on Monday and he didn't make it home until 9pm, missed my whole birthday. Overall, bad idea if you know people are flying in (strapped for cash), it just costs a heck of a lot more for them and they may get delayed at the airport.
boredgourdless boredgourdless 6 years
I think having an evening Sunday wedding on a normal weekend is bad planning, you'd exclude a lot of people or inconvenience guests. But a Sunday wedding on a long holiday weekend...well, that's not too bad.
lindssaurussss lindssaurussss 6 years
boo hoo inconvience for you. then dont go or actually make plans around the wedding ahead of time.. i wouldnt want someone like you comming to my wedding if you would end up complaining about what day i would choose.
heatherhas heatherhas 6 years
I think everyone is getting way too wrapped up in their own opinions. I don't think that any couple would intentionally make things inconvenient for their guests. You cannot make assumptions on why they selected a particular date or time. I wish more people would have the attitude that the wedding day is about the couple! Just be open minded about it! Ugh. I am so sick of hearing people complain about weddings.
heatherhas heatherhas 6 years
I think everyone is getting way too wrapped up in their own opinions. I don't think that any couple would intentionally make things inconvenient for their guests. You cannot make assumptions on why they selected a particular date or time. I wish more people would have the attitude that the wedding day is about the couple! Just be open minded about it! Ugh. I am so sick of hearing people complain about weddings.
Daisy-Duke Daisy-Duke 6 years
I'm married, and the #1 most important thing to me about my wedding was that it was on a Saturday. I think it is rude to have your wedding on a Friday or Sunday, or hey...a MONDAY, which I have now been invited to 2 Monday weddings. I'm sorry, but if you want people to go, you will have it on a Saturday. If you don't care, why have all the hoopla anyway? Just elope or go to City Hall and call it a day. There's a reason you have food, drinks and entertainment. If it was just about a ceremony, there would just be a ceremony. But guess what? All that other stuff is for your guests. So, to make them take time off work or school, shell out extra for travelling, I think it's rude. I do agree though, that you can always just not attend, but I know how personally a couple can take that. I also agree that you will travel/take time off if the couple is very important to you, which I have done as well. I just think in general, it is most convenient and appreciated to have your wedding on a Saturday.
Daisy-Duke Daisy-Duke 6 years
I'm married, and the #1 most important thing to me about my wedding was that it was on a Saturday. I think it is rude to have your wedding on a Friday or Sunday, or hey...a MONDAY, which I have now been invited to 2 Monday weddings. I'm sorry, but if you want people to go, you will have it on a Saturday. If you don't care, why have all the hoopla anyway? Just elope or go to City Hall and call it a day. There's a reason you have food, drinks and entertainment. If it was just about a ceremony, there would just be a ceremony. But guess what? All that other stuff is for your guests. So, to make them take time off work or school, shell out extra for travelling, I think it's rude. I do agree though, that you can always just not attend, but I know how personally a couple can take that. I also agree that you will travel/take time off if the couple is very important to you, which I have done as well. I just think in general, it is most convenient and appreciated to have your wedding on a Saturday.
bgorgeouss bgorgeouss 6 years
I actually just went to a wedding myself this past Sunday, Feb 14th. But, Monday was a holiday for Presidents day!!! It was a destination wedding, and spending a 3 day weekend at a great location with family/friends was fantastic. I'm sure the couple here also took the Monday holiday into consideration when planning their wedding.
fishmeister23 fishmeister23 6 years
I'm kind of on the fence about this, but I just wanted to contribute the fun fact that I knew a girl who had her wedding the night before Thanksgiving. How's THAT for inconsiderate?
medenginer medenginer 6 years
It's only one day out of the year.
filmgirl81 filmgirl81 6 years
Sunday and weekday weddings are half price. Often times the only way a couple can afford a wedding is if it on a weekday, plus people don't drink as much on those days. It's their wedding. If you don't want to go, don't go and just send a gift.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
*in your shoes......
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
*in your shoes......
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
IMO it's not something to get my panties in a bunch over. If a wedding is planned ahead with plenty of time for guests to make arrangements then it's up to you to decide whether or not you can do it or not. If you can't send them a lovely gift and a thoughtful card and call it a day. The day is about them and how they want to do it if that's not something you can handle with out emotional regret you shouldn't do it. I have no idea what your circumstances were at the time but if I were in your time I would have used a little accrued time and taken the next morning off from work. Or talked to my boss well in advance if time availed it self that way and made arrangements. All they can do is say yes or no.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
IMO it's not something to get my panties in a bunch over. If a wedding is planned ahead with plenty of time for guests to make arrangements then it's up to you to decide whether or not you can do it or not. If you can't send them a lovely gift and a thoughtful card and call it a day. The day is about them and how they want to do it if that's not something you can handle with out emotional regret you shouldn't do it. I have no idea what your circumstances were at the time but if I were in your time I would have used a little accrued time and taken the next morning off from work. Or talked to my boss well in advance if time availed it self that way and made arrangements. All they can do is say yes or no.
nylorac nylorac 6 years
so you're saying that the only acceptable day of week to hold the wedding is saturday. since friday also brings inconvenience for those who have to work during the day and may not have time to make it for your ceremony and/or reception... grow up! the wedding is about the couple and a celebration of their union. not you or any of the guests for that matter. if you find their celebration inconvenient and annoying, then i don't care how "close" you may be, you're always in a position to decline.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
I'm with the camp that says get over it. The wedding is about the couple, not about the guests. If the timing and driving distance was an issue, leave early. Set that boundary, and be truthful and polite about it.
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