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What to Do If His Family Dislikes You?

Family Feud: What to Do If His Family Dislikes You?

Whether your boyfriend's mother doesn't like you because she dislikes just about everyone, or his sister has had issues with you dating back to high school, a significant other's less-than-welcoming family can tax even the best relationship. Sometimes you can win them over, and other times it's not even worth it. How have you dealt?


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Keddle Keddle 6 years
My mother in law can't stand me. She phoned a few months ago to find out if my husband had left me yet and didn't realize until the end of the phone call that she was actually talking to my husband. My husband told her if she sought professional counseling we'd have a relationship with her but she never did and she's blamed me for it ever since. Luckily my husband has always been supportive of our relationship and hasn't let her trying to destroy it gain any ground.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 6 years
My boyfriends parents don't like me. So far it seems like they dislike a number of things about me. I'm agnostic, a messy person, I love to cook, I don't have my full drivers license even though I'm 20, I have a casual job while I study instead of a full time job and part time study, I read violent thriller novels, I love sex, and I absolutely hate clean jeans and don't mind getting covered in dirt. I'm the complete opposite of them in almost every way and either they found that quite confronting or some of my views clashed with theirs in all the wrong ways. As such I'm not allowed over there and his parents tend to kick up a fuss when my partner and I want to hang out. I handle it by being super friendly and polite when in their company, and stand up for myself. I'm not gonna change to please them, I'm not dating them, I'm dating their son! (Who loves my cooking so :p)
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 6 years
My boyfriends parents don't like me. So far it seems like they dislike a number of things about me.I'm agnostic, a messy person, I love to cook, I don't have my full drivers license even though I'm 20, I have a casual job while I study instead of a full time job and part time study, I read violent thriller novels, I love sex, and I absolutely hate clean jeans and don't mind getting covered in dirt.I'm the complete opposite of them in almost every way and either they found that quite confronting or some of my views clashed with theirs in all the wrong ways. As such I'm not allowed over there and his parents tend to kick up a fuss when my partner and I want to hang out.I handle it by being super friendly and polite when in their company, and stand up for myself. I'm not gonna change to please them, I'm not dating them, I'm dating their son! (Who loves my cooking so :p)
gLam-shortie gLam-shortie 6 years
My boyfriend's mother absolutely HATES ME!!!For some reason, she got the impression that I was "too materialistic" because I like to buy nice things for myself....Um, so because I go to college, make money for myself, and live on my own and pay my own bills, she thinks I'm "too materialistic". Whatever. Anyhow, we had our fair share of arguments...she has made me cry and I have made her cry as well. My boyfriend is so static on this one, because he says he "doesn't know what to do". I personally think he should stick up for me, since ultimately, I'm the one who's going to spend the rest of his life with!!! Ladies, you just have to ignore the fact that your MIL is a BITCH, and she may never like you. It's not you, but it's just her complex problem within....just because you happen to be dating her "only son". I say just be "civil and respectful", but you don't need to put up with her shit. Just remember that you love your BOYFRIEND/HUSBAND....and it doesn't mean you have to like his mother.
gLam-shortie gLam-shortie 6 years
My boyfriend's mother absolutely HATES ME!!! For some reason, she got the impression that I was "too materialistic" because I like to buy nice things for myself.... Um, so because I go to college, make money for myself, and live on my own and pay my own bills, she thinks I'm "too materialistic". Whatever. Anyhow, we had our fair share of arguments...she has made me cry and I have made her cry as well. My boyfriend is so static on this one, because he says he "doesn't know what to do". I personally think he should stick up for me, since ultimately, I'm the one who's going to spend the rest of his life with!!! Ladies, you just have to ignore the fact that your MIL is a BITCH, and she may never like you. It's not you, but it's just her complex problem within....just because you happen to be dating her "only son". I say just be "civil and respectful", but you don't need to put up with her shit. Just remember that you love your BOYFRIEND/HUSBAND....and it doesn't mean you have to like his mother.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
I identify with Yogaforlife. As far as my family, I cut out relatives who were unkind to my husband. I took their behavior as being disrespectful towards me (for dissing my beloved husband). Also, I decided to distance myself from these relatives out of loyalty to my husband (if that makes sense). Likewise, my husband does the same for me when it comes to his family. My husband mentioned that he was willing to do that for me because I did that for him with my family.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
I identify with Yogaforlife.As far as my family, I cut out relatives who were unkind to my husband. I took their behavior as being disrespectful towards me (for dissing my beloved husband). Also, I decided to distance myself from these relatives out of loyalty to my husband (if that makes sense).Likewise, my husband does the same for me when it comes to his family. My husband mentioned that he was willing to do that for me because I did that for him with my family.
singlesuzanne singlesuzanne 6 years
I am very lucky my boyfriend's parents like me (or seem to) and treat me well. I was really nervous about meeting them the first time, but I love them!
Frootchinator Frootchinator 6 years
whoops! I was going to say, in the past I have gotten along much better with my ex's families than the exes!
Frootchinator Frootchinator 6 years
I currently get along well with my boyfriend's family. I don't see them often (they live far away) but when I do they are very kind to me.In the past,
Frootchinator Frootchinator 6 years
I currently get along well with my boyfriend's family. I don't see them often (they live far away) but when I do they are very kind to me. In the past,
Amigone Amigone 6 years
My boyfriend's sister doesn't like me. We don't really know why. She's just not a fan. I just ignore it. It hasn't been a thing in our realtionship although my boyfriend did let me know that he would talk to her about it becuase HE'S not happy about it. I was not pushing the issue.
LeftosDotCom LeftosDotCom 6 years
It's very hard to win people over after you make a first impression. According to the post on our site, http://www.leftos.com/forum/view/407 , it's important that your significant other stands up for you and vouches for you. It also depends on how close your significant other is with the family member who disapproves of you. If you have a boyfriend who is attached to his mothers hip and the definition of a mama's boy, then it's going to be hard for him to ultimately stick with someone who his mother disapproves of. On the other hand, if he isn't that close with the family member or is just very independent then what they say what have as much weight on his decision. Look at the situation you're in and try to analyze why they don't approve and if your SO relies too much on that person in his life. It may give you a better outlook.
LeftosDotCom LeftosDotCom 6 years
It's very hard to win people over after you make a first impression. According to the post on our site, http://www.leftos.com/forum/view/407 , it's important that your significant other stands up for you and vouches for you. It also depends on how close your significant other is with the family member who disapproves of you. If you have a boyfriend who is attached to his mothers hip and the definition of a mama's boy, then it's going to be hard for him to ultimately stick with someone who his mother disapproves of. On the other hand, if he isn't that close with the family member or is just very independent then what they say what have as much weight on his decision. Look at the situation you're in and try to analyze why they don't approve and if your SO relies too much on that person in his life. It may give you a better outlook.
kia kia 6 years
Easy we don't live near any of our family so this issue only rears its head when we allow it. :)
ManiMartinixo ManiMartinixo 6 years
My boyfriend is temporarily moving back in with his mother to get away from his current roommates and while I'm excited to have him 3 hours closer to me I'm nervous about meeting his family. I hope they like me but I'll see.
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