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What To Do When You Get Too Drunk At a Party

Group Therapy: I Made a Fool of Myself at a Party

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I was invited to go to a small party by a new friend. The people at this party are friends of my friend so I had never met them before the other night. Over the course of the night I drank quite a lot on an empty stomach. (Bad idea, I know.) I thought we were having a great time at the party and I was enjoying talking to these people.

But today my friend said I made a bad impression at the party because I was drunk and way too loud for the other people's liking. They don't want to ever hang out with me again, which puts my friend in a bad spot. I am really embarassed now and don't know what to say or do to make the situation better. Normally I do not drink that much but I am a loud person even when I am sober, so why apologize for how I usually am?  Then again, I feel I do need to apologize since they were annoyed by me.

So if you guys have any advice, please let me know.

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dikke-kus dikke-kus 5 years
Eh, maybe you could try to apologize to her and her friends. If I were in your shoes I would try just once to reach out to her and invite her (and friends) to something nice and to try to show her or them as well your better side. But I would keep it at that. I'm sure these people will run into you at some point and it will be obvious to them it was just one of those nights. I have a friend like you, loud and louder when she drinks but I love her to death. She knows that too so she does keep the drinking in check sometimes.
blondestone blondestone 5 years
They are being a bit uptight a parties a party lol but I would apologize
karlotta karlotta 5 years
All those people sound obnoxious - even your friend. What, she couldn't defend you to her other friends? Don't feel bad about yourself, it's ok to let loose and be a bit loud during a party. You were having fun - so what? They're gonna shoot you? Turn it around in your head : you may just not enjoy these uptight, judgmental people as friends, after all. ;)
runningesq runningesq 5 years
We've all done stupid shit while drunk.I'd apologize and then move on. If they can't accept your apology, I wouldn't sweat it. It's not like you spilled red wine all over a white carpet or puked someone :P
runningesq runningesq 5 years
We've all done stupid shit while drunk. I'd apologize and then move on. If they can't accept your apology, I wouldn't sweat it. It's not like you spilled red wine all over a white carpet or puked someone :P
tarabara1229 tarabara1229 5 years
To me, these people seem a little uptight, but it sounds like you're genuinely sorry, so I don't think it's a bad idea to apologize. I know whenever I meet new people, I like to have a drink to ease my nerves! Yeah, maybe you had one drink too many, but it doesn't sound like you did anything overly obnoxious. If they can't forgive you for that, move on to a better crowd!
juicebox07 juicebox07 5 years
I was in a similar boat once, only it was the opposite for me. I made a bad impression because I WASN'T drinking. Yes, that's right. The other girls were (and one was quite drunk). She basically said I was boring because I wouldn't have a drink. You can't please everyone. I would just brush it off and find people who like you for who you truly are.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 5 years
Aww.. well it doesn't look like you danced naked or broke all their furniture, so I think those people need to lighten up. Maybe you should ask your friend to tell them that you're genuinely sorry and would like to hang out with them again without drinking anything. I'm sure they'll be perfectly fine with hanging out with you once they see that you can be sober and have fun, too. On the other hand though, if they don't even want to give you another chance.. well then that's a complete overreaction and you they are not worth your time. Go find better friends.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 5 years
Aww.. well it doesn't look like you danced naked or broke all their furniture, so I think those people need to lighten up. Maybe you should ask your friend to tell them that you're genuinely sorry and would like to hang out with them again without drinking anything. I'm sure they'll be perfectly fine with hanging out with you once they see that you can be sober and have fun, too. On the other hand though, if they don't even want to give you another chance.. well then that's a complete overreaction and you they are not worth your time. Go find better friends.
stephley stephley 5 years
I'm with Onlysour, a gracious apology goes a long way and is necessary. If your impression was that everyone was having a great time and everyone else's impression was that you were drunk & loud, you likely weren't pleasant to be around, especially for the first time. You may not remember how you affected the party. Going with someone new, to a small party, and getting so drunk you dominate the party is rude and disrespectful to your new friend & everyone else. It doesn't make it okay if other people have been drunk & disrespectful - this was you, at their party.
stephley stephley 5 years
I'm with Onlysour, a gracious apology goes a long way and is necessary. If your impression was that everyone was having a great time and everyone else's impression was that you were drunk & loud, you likely weren't pleasant to be around, especially for the first time. You may not remember how you affected the party.Going with someone new, to a small party, and getting so drunk you dominate the party is rude and disrespectful to your new friend & everyone else. It doesn't make it okay if other people have been drunk & disrespectful - this was you, at their party.
GlitzyGlam GlitzyGlam 5 years
Doesn't exactly sound like your crowd of people if they are going to react to it that way. Don't be sorry for being yourself, so what if you had a few drinks.. The lesson learned is to not drink on an empty stomach! Maybe an apology to the real friend is necessary and see how that goes, she may have just been showing a bit of concern.
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 5 years
Depending on how interested you are in being friends with these people, you could send a thank you note that said something like, "Thanks for throwing a lovely party. Sorry my behavior didn't match the nice occasion! Promise to make it up to you if I see you again." An apology goes a long way, and the host would be likely to tell people about your nice but not over the top note. Also apologize to your friend and let her know it won't happen again.
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 5 years
Depending on how interested you are in being friends with these people, you could send a thank you note that said something like, "Thanks for throwing a lovely party. Sorry my behavior didn't match the nice occasion! Promise to make it up to you if I see you again." An apology goes a long way, and the host would be likely to tell people about your nice but not over the top note. Also apologize to your friend and let her know it won't happen again.
brindey brindey 5 years
No one is perfect. That said, first impressions are hard to overcome. If it is a new friend, how determined are you to get in with her circle of friends? If being loud was all you did, then they do seem a little up tight. I would apologize to your new friend for putting her in an awkward spot, and move on. If you do ever see these people again, make a quick joke out of the situation, and then be yourself. If they still don't like you, that is their problem.
brindey brindey 5 years
No one is perfect. That said, first impressions are hard to overcome. If it is a new friend, how determined are you to get in with her circle of friends? If being loud was all you did, then they do seem a little up tight. I would apologize to your new friend for putting her in an awkward spot, and move on. If you do ever see these people again, make a quick joke out of the situation, and then be yourself. If they still don't like you, that is their problem.
redchick152 redchick152 5 years
i think she realizes she made made a mistake by drinking so much at the party....honestly, most of us have had that happen once or twice. so i don't think that is what she's wanting advice on...apologize to your friend and ask her to pass the message along to the other people. if these people don't want to get to know you based on one night's mistakes, then they probably aren't worth your time either. work on making it right w/ your friend.
redchick152 redchick152 5 years
i think she realizes she made made a mistake by drinking so much at the party....honestly, most of us have had that happen once or twice. so i don't think that is what she's wanting advice on... apologize to your friend and ask her to pass the message along to the other people. if these people don't want to get to know you based on one night's mistakes, then they probably aren't worth your time either. work on making it right w/ your friend.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 5 years
I think that getting drunk while meeting new people is a bad idea. One, you say this is your new friend's friends. How do you know if you can count on your new friend to 'help you out' if you get to that 'really drunk/blackout/etc' point? It's just not safe for you.Two, it gives a bad impression, as if you're not there to meet with these new people or getting to know them, it makes them think you're just there for the booze and/or indulging yourself. We can't assume that everyone new we meet will be cool with drunken, possibly loud, possibly boorish or possibly destructive behavior. If I were you, I would apologize to your friend (and ask her/him to belay the apology to the host and others) and just don't hang out with these people/strangers anymore. And explain to your new friend that you do speak loud and probably come across more 'aggressive(?)' that way, drunk or not, so if they don't like how you are (loud), then, they don't need to be your friends anyway. You can't be walking on eggshells and pretend to be someone you're not.Good luck.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 5 years
I think that getting drunk while meeting new people is a bad idea. One, you say this is your new friend's friends. How do you know if you can count on your new friend to 'help you out' if you get to that 'really drunk/blackout/etc' point? It's just not safe for you. Two, it gives a bad impression, as if you're not there to meet with these new people or getting to know them, it makes them think you're just there for the booze and/or indulging yourself. We can't assume that everyone new we meet will be cool with drunken, possibly loud, possibly boorish or possibly destructive behavior. If I were you, I would apologize to your friend (and ask her/him to belay the apology to the host and others) and just don't hang out with these people/strangers anymore. And explain to your new friend that you do speak loud and probably come across more 'aggressive(?)' that way, drunk or not, so if they don't like how you are (loud), then, they don't need to be your friends anyway. You can't be walking on eggshells and pretend to be someone you're not. Good luck.
Rjs-baby-girl Rjs-baby-girl 5 years
Getting drunk when meeting new people is not a very good idea, but you weren't going to meet the president for God's sake. I think your friend's friends are a bit uptight and they should give you another chance of making a better impression. Maybe apologize for getting drunk, but not for being who you are.
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