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What Do You Do if a First Date Is Going Bad?

Who hasn't been on a horrible first date? Whether you were set up by a co-worker or met through an online dating service, we've all been there. The awkward silences, the distracting looks at everything but your date, and the continuous thoughts of wishing the date would just end already!

There are many ways to deal with a bad date, but I want to know what you typically do?

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tinyspark tinyspark 8 years
snookyx, that is hilarious and totally works! moms are good like that. :)
vmruby vmruby 8 years
What would i do? Call it a night ASAP........
purpleisafruit purpleisafruit 8 years
Feign a headache or a migraine.
Asia84 Asia84 8 years
well for first dates, i like to meet up at a mutual spot. (i don't like for ppl to know where i live) if the date is going bad, i usually just say, "well, i suppose we can call it the night". and that's that. but sometimes, the guy is soooo into you, and you were over it when you found out he bathes only every other day, or he lives with his mother and has a baby-mama. that's when you have to do some genuine lying. you can go to the bath room, and come out with your cell, talking to your mom, or a friend (they should be on reserve for rescue), and you say that you can be there in 30-45 minutes. hang up, and tell him that you're friend's tire went out, or they ran out of gas, and they are far off (i live in the Los Angeles area, so you can say they are out in Moreno Valley somewhere), and that you need to get to them. lie and say you hate to end the date, but you need to help a friend. if he insist on going with (to protect you), you just say that you'll be fine, and rush off. i've done it twice, and it worked!
rachaelnexus rachaelnexus 8 years
To be honest is the best way to end an awful date and to avoid future phone calls.I would just excuse and leave
nopenope nopenope 8 years
I've had some buddies call at a certain time, or had a saved text message ready to send out as an SOS, heh. There was this cute, mysterious kinda guy in a class I had a couple years ago. I didn't really think anything of him during the class. The next semester I see him around a couple of times and he sat in on a class of mine since it was the same one he had the day earlier; only he missed the class and was making up the day. I say screw it and I put a note on his car asking him out to lunch 'cause he was a huge curiosity for me and I had no other decent prospects at the time. Lunch... hah! He asked me loads of questions, and totally ignored the ones I asked and instead of talking about himself (at all!) he creepily stared at me the ENTIRE lunch. I'm positive he thought that look was sexy, ugh. I told him I needed to head back to campus to work on an assignment I "forgot" about. He paid for lunch, though, whoo free sandwich, haha. He then switched classes into mine and would constantly talk to me and sat by me everyday. It sucked, heh. It took awhile for him to understand I had no more interest in him. He was still mysterious to me, though, that creepy jerk.
sarasonne sarasonne 8 years
If all else fails and there's lots of awkward silences, one option is to start drinking, especially if it's on their tab! Admit it, it looses anyone up! And if the still doesn't work, well it wasn't meant to be.
d_ford d_ford 8 years
One date was going so bad that I went to the bathroom and never came back. I think he got the hint and didn't call me again. Another one I told him I wasn't feeling well and wanted to go home. When we parted, he came at me trying to perform mouth to mouth. I knew he wanted to kiss me, but I was avoiding him, ducking when he came near me but he surprised me. It was gross. Then I went to the bar with my friends. The stupid guy didn't get it. He kept calling me and asking why it never worked out.
Marci Marci 8 years
I always made the best of it but made it an early evening. And yes! As kittenheelsrule mentioned, always drive yourself. That allows for an easier exit.
kittenheelsrule kittenheelsrule 8 years
A couple of years ago - I jumped into the online dating pool which, naturally, resulted in going on many, many bad dates. After a few bad dates, I realized that they are all part of the dating process. Other than the the true weirdos (one guy asked me to meow for him over lunch), if I was on a date but knew there was not future, I would treat the guy like someone new at work i.e. with interest but no flirtation. Usually, they pick up the signal... and if not, I cut it short. The most important tip - always drive yourself you can leave when you want. :) Happy Friday!
klandrach klandrach 8 years
Find the easiest quickest time to leave and get out! I don't think any guy wants to buy a girl dinner that is having an awful time and doesn't want to be there. I would rather just have a drink or appetizer and if I am just miserable then thank him and say I need to leave. Funny thing is that some of the worst dates in the beginning for me have actually turned out pretty well. The guys were just nervous or trying to be cool and once they relaxed everything was fine. So don't be too hasty to walk away just because the conversation isn't wonderful!
elizabelle elizabelle 8 years
honesty works best. but I never make a first date a dinner anyway. it's much easier to excuse yourself from a coffee or a drink than a dinner.
cubadog cubadog 8 years
First date I am not going to tell a guy I don't really know that I started my period. I just suck it up finish dinner and end the evening early and when they call back I politely decline and as hard as it is tell the truth. I have never been out with a guy that was a total jerk a bad tipper or 2.
vanyvrgs vanyvrgs 8 years
Why lie? I tell them "you know what there is no chemistry and instead of sitting here with you wasting our times, I would rather go home, so thanks for everything and good bye." I never ever let someone pick me up in a car on the first date and always meet them there so I have my own way home in case.
citizenkane citizenkane 8 years
I like k8rckstr's idea! Be honest, tell him I'm not having fun, and leave :)
k8-rckstr k8-rckstr 8 years
"I'm sorry but I don't think this is going anywhere, so I think I'm going to leave now...thanks for everything" BYE!!! hahaha Works every time ;)
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
Go to the bathroom and never return.
sugarbritches sugarbritches 8 years
I excused myself to go to the restroom and didn't come back. Sounds harsh, but the guy was a total jerk! There was a table of girls behind us and two of the girls were together and he started cracking gay jokes and I think maybe trying to be funny but I was so embarassed at how rude he was being. I excused myself when he asked one of them how long it took before her legs fell asleep when she had her girlfriend sitting in her lap! I hope they beat him down after I left, he deserved it.
sugarbecky sugarbecky 8 years
I had a bad date once where I ended up just staring off into space and only answering direct questions, he finally got the clue-- sounds cold, but it worked, he never called me again.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 8 years
What do you do? i'd say goodbye.
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 8 years
well i am 17 yearls old, and im close with my mom. when i go on a date with a guy i tell my mom to call me an hour after i leave, and when she calls, she asks me if i want to leave, and then if i say yes, we will have this convo about how i have to get home ASAP. ive only had to do that once but im glad i have my moms help lol. i know it sounds dumb.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 8 years
Bad date...I usually just hung on until the end of the date, resisted any attempt at intimacy, then thanked him for dinner (because usually he paid) and when he called to ask for another date, I just declined. If he asked why, I'd tell him the truth.
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 8 years
Go to the restroom, call a friend and ask them to call you back in 10 minutes. Then, at the table, pick up your friend's call and act like it's urgent and they need you for something right away. Then leave. =)
gooniette gooniette 8 years
I've only been on one. The guy got into a political debate with another guy at a coffee shop and let it go on way too long. I just sat there and stared into the distance until it was time to go. At the end of the date, there was no good night kiss and I didn't answer his calls after that.
Greggie Greggie 8 years
If he offered to go to the drugstore, I'd say "Thanks, but I'm not spending money on a whole new box when I have everything I need at home, and besides, I need to change my underthings." ;)
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