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What's Good Sex?

What's Good Sex?

In a recent article in The Huffington Post, Dr. Sue Johnson asks "what is 'good sex'?" and proceeds to examine what she refers to as the three kinds of sex, including sealed-off sex, solace sex, and synchrony sex. Before addressing each, she notes:

What really determines what kind of sex you are going to have isn't the novel positions you find in the sex manual or the new tips in the latest magazine. It's how safely attached you are to your partner. Emotional presence and trust are the biggest aphrodisiacs of all.

Accordingly, sealed-off sex is all about satisfaction and pleasure, and relies on emotional detachment, while solace sex is more about emotional needs and reassurance than physical pleasure. Synchrony sex, on the other hand, is when emotional desire and connection open the way to erotic satisfaction, and as implied by the article, is "good sex."

I certainly don't think there's any definition of good sex that works for every person, but I do know many who would argue that under the right circumstances, simple, physical sex can be great and so can comfort sex. So ladies, let me ask, what's your definition of good sex?


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