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What's Love Got to Do With It? Writer Laments Unwed Drudgery

What's Love Got to Do With It? Writer Laments Unwed Drudgery

Syndicated columnist Froma Harrop took to her column this week to discuss the situation of unwed mothers in America. See 40 percent of America's babies are born out of wedlock.

Harrop opens her piece A Nation of Unwed Drudgery with an anecdote (at the expense of her neighbor).

A neighbor in her 30s, a very fine woman, recently had a child with her boyfriend. They live together.

The boyfriend's mother and father enjoy being grandparents. The boyfriend gets to have a son, as well as live-in female companionship. How eager he was to be a father, I don't know, but he clearly doesn't want to be the mother's husband. He's keeping his options open.

While the man has his options open, Harrop explains, the mom takes on all of the baby care, going nonstop from 5 a.m. to 10 p.m.

It's hard to argue that raising kids alone is easier than doing it with a partner. But does it really matter if you're married to your partner? Harrop thinks the answer is yes. To see why,


She argues that "the seriousness of the legal bond between the parents — as well as from parent to child — helps foster a partnership in childrearing, even if that bond later dissolves in divorce."

While I find the piece to over generalize relationships, which can be healthy or unhealthy regardless of marital status, do you think society should worry about the rising number of births out of wedlock?


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