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What's Love Got to Do With It? Writer Laments Unwed Drudgery

What's Love Got to Do With It? Writer Laments Unwed Drudgery

Syndicated columnist Froma Harrop took to her column this week to discuss the situation of unwed mothers in America. See 40 percent of America's babies are born out of wedlock.

Harrop opens her piece A Nation of Unwed Drudgery with an anecdote (at the expense of her neighbor).

A neighbor in her 30s, a very fine woman, recently had a child with her boyfriend. They live together.

The boyfriend's mother and father enjoy being grandparents. The boyfriend gets to have a son, as well as live-in female companionship. How eager he was to be a father, I don't know, but he clearly doesn't want to be the mother's husband. He's keeping his options open.

While the man has his options open, Harrop explains, the mom takes on all of the baby care, going nonstop from 5 a.m. to 10 p.m.

It's hard to argue that raising kids alone is easier than doing it with a partner. But does it really matter if you're married to your partner? Harrop thinks the answer is yes. To see why,

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She argues that "the seriousness of the legal bond between the parents — as well as from parent to child — helps foster a partnership in childrearing, even if that bond later dissolves in divorce."

While I find the piece to over generalize relationships, which can be healthy or unhealthy regardless of marital status, do you think society should worry about the rising number of births out of wedlock?

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em1282 em1282 7 years
:rotfl:
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 7 years
And ewwwwwwwwwwww green pigeon poop hair! :sick:
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 7 years
Hundreds, HUNDREDS of seagulls come in. I'd be sitting under an umbrella too. Superstitions be dammed!
em1282 em1282 7 years
:rotfl:! I don't blame them for being so freaked out. My (very blonde) friend once got pidgeon poop in her hair and turned a section of it green...
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 7 years
I'm not sure how long he'll be out. But he walked off almost unassisted. So that's good. You know who was REALLY freaked out at that game? The people in the upper deck that were afraid of all the seagulls that come in in the evening pooping on their heads. So although the rain had stopped, the umbrellas were up! :rotfl:
em1282 em1282 7 years
Good think Martinez appears to be OK. Can't even imagine how freaked out he must have been. Yeesh. Well, it's obvious why you're craving crepes. You think France is superior to America. Oh, and every other European country, as well.
UnDave35 UnDave35 7 years
Any word on how long he'll be out?
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 7 years
Man I've had a hankering for Apple Pie lately...CRAP. I mean, hankering for crepes. Yeah that's it!
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 7 years
It was scary...he had like a tenth of a second before the ball hit him. I think he only needed one more strike to end the game too.
em1282 em1282 7 years
Ah, thanks for the link! But...yes, yes, go Canucks!
UnDave35 UnDave35 7 years
"But had a scary moment in the 9th with 2 outs...rookie pitcher got hit in the head by a line drive " Ouch!
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 7 years
They're looking pretty spectacular, won today (which brings them to 2-1). But had a scary moment in the 9th with 2 outs...rookie pitcher got hit in the head by a line drive (http://sanfrancisco.giants.mlb.com/news/article.jsp?ymd=20090409&content_id=4205706&vkey=news_sf&fext=.jsp&c_id=sf) OOPS. Can't talk baseball. Ummmmmm yay Vancouver!
em1282 em1282 7 years
:rotfl: Oh, my boys have definitely gotten off to a rough start. The fact that the bf is a die-hard Royals fan has not helped for the past 2 days! What about the Giants? I haven't been checking all the scores yet. Oh, sh!t Sarah, we can't like baseball. It's America's pastime, and therefore traditional. Quick! Start talking about the Vancouver Canucks!
em1282 em1282 7 years
:rotfl: Oh, my boys have definitely gotten off to a rough start. The fact that the bf is a die-hard Royals fan has not helped for the past 2 days! What about the Giants? I haven't been checking all the scores yet. Oh, sh!t Sarah, we can't like baseball. It's America's pastime, and therefore traditional. Quick! Start talking about the Vancouver Canucks!
UnDave35 UnDave35 7 years
"Yes, we evil liberals are doing away with traditional things. Like how all of we liberal women don't shave our pits, wear makeup, or know how to cook for their men"I'm still trying to figure out when it became a requirement for me to shave my chest. Thomas Magnum was considered hot with his man rug, and now chest hair is bad?
UnDave35 UnDave35 7 years
"Yes, we evil liberals are doing away with traditional things. Like how all of we liberal women don't shave our pits, wear makeup, or know how to cook for their men" I'm still trying to figure out when it became a requirement for me to shave my chest. Thomas Magnum was considered hot with his man rug, and now chest hair is bad?
em1282 em1282 7 years
I did!! And while I was at it I also shoved a little kid. Can't stand children--so traditional to have them and all. :oy:
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 7 years
Oh and Giants rule, Sox drool. :raspberry:
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 7 years
em did you burn your required bra this week too?
em1282 em1282 7 years
Excuse me, *us* liberal women. I'm trying to do away with the tradition of proper grammar as well.
em1282 em1282 7 years
:rotfl: Yes, we evil liberals are doing away with traditional things. Like how all of we liberal women don't shave our pits, wear makeup, or know how to cook for their men. :oy:
em1282 em1282 7 years
:rotfl: Yes, we evil liberals are doing away with traditional things. Like how all of we liberal women don't shave our pits, wear makeup, or know how to cook for their men. :oy:
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 7 years
You change first.
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 7 years
You change first.
UnDave35 UnDave35 7 years
Change for the sake of change? ;)
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