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What Makes Someone Wife or Husband Material?

What Makes Someone "Wife" or "Husband" Material?

Here's a post from OnSugar blog My DISFunkshion.

It's very easy to assume the qualities that make a man or woman marriage material. Characteristics such as trust, understanding and a good personality might be on the top of our lists but when it boils down to it, it seems that there are very different traits to look out for.

For the ladies:

According to ehow.com, you should look for elements of sensitivity and reliability. If he's attentive and displays thoughtful gestures, then he's worth considering as he has a natural caring nature.

Is he a hard worker? If he strikes a balance between working hard and enjoying time out, then you have someone whose "hard work is often motivated by the drive to build a foundation for, and ultimately help to provide for, a family."

A classic indicator is if he looks to the future with you in mind. Discussing the long-term future is a big deal in itself so if he keeps you in mind along the way, it is a definite thumbs up.

To see what My DISFunkshion thinks men look out for, keep reading the post. Want to see more? Start following My DISFunkshion or start your own OnSugar blog. Maybe your stories will be posted here on TrèsSugar!

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marieli marieli 5 years
happily married
marieli marieli 5 years
happily married
MissSushi MissSushi 5 years
I think the main key things needed in both male and female are maturity and a willingness to compromise. Once you're married, you can't just do whatever you want, whenever you want, no matter the consequences. You have to give as much as you take. Yes, children add stress to your relationship, but so do most things in our lives. Every new responsibility you add into your life whether its bills, a demanding career, a busy social life, adds a little bit of stress. I think the reason so many marriages have trouble with children is because there are very few couples who both completely understand what an undertaking having a child is. Most people don't really want to make the personal sacrifices or do the extra work needed with a dependent. Then you have couples where one gives into having children they don't really want becuase their partners do. Both situations spiral out of control with bitterness because they're completely stuck once they have a kid even if they ditch the relationship. You can't enjoy something you feel trapped into, even if you made the choice to do it.
MissSushi MissSushi 5 years
I think the main key things needed in both male and female are maturity and a willingness to compromise. Once you're married, you can't just do whatever you want, whenever you want, no matter the consequences. You have to give as much as you take. Yes, children add stress to your relationship, but so do most things in our lives. Every new responsibility you add into your life whether its bills, a demanding career, a busy social life, adds a little bit of stress. I think the reason so many marriages have trouble with children is because there are very few couples who both completely understand what an undertaking having a child is. Most people don't really want to make the personal sacrifices or do the extra work needed with a dependent. Then you have couples where one gives into having children they don't really want becuase their partners do. Both situations spiral out of control with bitterness because they're completely stuck once they have a kid even if they ditch the relationship. You can't enjoy something you feel trapped into, even if you made the choice to do it.
Studio16 Studio16 5 years
Ugh, SKG it's a wonder Carrie Bradshaw ever got married. Actually it's a wonder that any of those women ever got married! I think that different people look for different things. I personally need someone who is mature, intelligent, and hard working. I need someone with long term career goals, someone who is always looking to move up in the world. Someone who thinks that mediocrity is acceptable is not acceptable to me. Frankly, I would rather take a type-A perfectionist over someone who is "sensitive" any day. I don't need affection, I need someone who's going to pull his weight and support me and our children. Like lickety split, I think getting married is easy and staying married is the hard part.
Studio16 Studio16 5 years
Ugh, SKG it's a wonder Carrie Bradshaw ever got married. Actually it's a wonder that any of those women ever got married!I think that different people look for different things. I personally need someone who is mature, intelligent, and hard working. I need someone with long term career goals, someone who is always looking to move up in the world. Someone who thinks that mediocrity is acceptable is not acceptable to me. Frankly, I would rather take a type-A perfectionist over someone who is "sensitive" any day. I don't need affection, I need someone who's going to pull his weight and support me and our children. Like lickety split, I think getting married is easy and staying married is the hard part.
lickety-split lickety-split 5 years
Different things for each if us at different times. Depending on where we are and what we are able/willing to give and what we need in return. Getting married is easy. Staying married is the challenge. At some point most people "break" the terms of the marriage. Like their apperance is not as much of a priority, they don't appreciate their partner the way they did early on, sex becomes boring or non-existent, outside interests become more important than the marriage. Then what? One partner is left to accept the leftovers of what they thought they were getting, and the "partnership" continues as a business relationship. That's the most common "happily ever after" senerio these days. I don't know what most of you consider long term marriage, but with the exception of my parents friends (who let's face it had fewer options) people aren't happily married after about 10 years. And 20 years is almost unheard of.
lickety-split lickety-split 5 years
Different things for each if us at different times. Depending on where we are and what we are able/willing to give and what we need in return.Getting married is easy. Staying married is the challenge. At some point most people "break" the terms of the marriage. Like their apperance is not as much of a priority, they don't appreciate their partner the way they did early on, sex becomes boring or non-existent, outside interests become more important than the marriage. Then what? One partner is left to accept the leftovers of what they thought they were getting, and the "partnership" continues as a business relationship. That's the most common "happily ever after" senerio these days.I don't know what most of you consider long term marriage, but with the exception of my parents friends (who let's face it had fewer options) people aren't happily married after about 10 years. And 20 years is almost unheard of.
marcied23 marcied23 5 years
i also think with the maturity skg speaks on also includes not being totally selfish and learning to do things with another person in mind.
marcied23 marcied23 5 years
i also think with the maturity skg speaks on also includes not being totally selfish and learning to do things with another person in mind.
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