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What's the Nicest Way to Break Up With Someone?

What's the Nicest Way to Break Up With Someone?

Can you break someone's heart nicely? Probably not. Still, some breakups are worse than others. Bad timing — after a partner's lost a job or before a birthday — and an inappropriate method — via email or a hired separation agent — can really add insult to injury. Most of us can identify pure cruelness but what about sweetening the medicine of moving on? What do you consider the nicest way possible to end a relationship?

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GScott86 GScott86 6 years
Really...doesn't matter how you do it now. Just tell the person you don't want to be with them. This is usually followed by ending contact and stop being friends. In my opinion, when my ex finally stopped talking to me and left me alone (and I did the same), it allowed me to move on. Now I have no feeling for her other than apathy, and I feel happier now that I'm moving on and feel something great for someone that accepts me for me in all my flaws.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 6 years
Anon 15... it's not you and it's not him, it's the two of you together.
looseseal looseseal 6 years
It's best to do the breaking up somewhere PIVATE, like at the dumpee's home, so he or she can retreat to a safe and private place right away, and you can leave. Don't do it at a public place like a restaurant. That would make the person being dumped feel more humiliated, and then have to fight traffic to get home afterwards. Not Good. Totally agree with everyone who say "don't drag it out". Even a email breakup is better than dragging it out (though of course it's best to do it in person so you don't have to wonder if your break-up email disappeared into the big server in the sky). There's never a "good time". If it's too sad a time you're afraid of making things worse, if it's too happy a time you're afraid of being a downer. Just do it.
looseseal looseseal 6 years
It's best to do the breaking up somewhere PIVATE, like at the dumpee's home, so he or she can retreat to a safe and private place right away, and you can leave.Don't do it at a public place like a restaurant. That would make the person being dumped feel more humiliated, and then have to fight traffic to get home afterwards. Not Good.Totally agree with everyone who say "don't drag it out". Even a email breakup is better than dragging it out (though of course it's best to do it in person so you don't have to wonder if your break-up email disappeared into the big server in the sky).There's never a "good time". If it's too sad a time you're afraid of making things worse, if it's too happy a time you're afraid of being a downer. Just do it.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 6 years
hypnoticmix, that's a good advice about dating. Sometimes you think that just because you don't really have a relationship jet you don't need to be up front.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 6 years
I dont think there is ever a good way to break up with someone but its best to always be honest.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 6 years
I dont think there is ever a good way to break up with someone but its best to always be honest.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
IMO with complete yet tactful and considerate honesty. On a side note I wouldn't necessarily call them breakups since there's no deep rooted relationship but when I was dating I had a pet peeve. When you go on several dates with some one and poof they some how disappear off the map. I'm sorry but that's just cowardice and ridiculous. When I was dating and it wasn't working out for me I was respectful and honest about it. In some cases we stayed friends and in others we parted ways but if we ever bumped into each other again the difference is they can look at me with respect rather than look at me like I'm a coward.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
IMO with complete yet tactful and considerate honesty. On a side note I wouldn't necessarily call them breakups since there's no deep rooted relationship but when I was dating I had a pet peeve. When you go on several dates with some one and poof they some how disappear off the map. I'm sorry but that's just cowardice and ridiculous. When I was dating and it wasn't working out for me I was respectful and honest about it. In some cases we stayed friends and in others we parted ways but if we ever bumped into each other again the difference is they can look at me with respect rather than look at me like I'm a coward.
Hello890 Hello890 6 years
I've only been dumped once and it was the worst possible way. They just avoided me, ignored my calls, etc. In other words, they didn't have the balls to actually tell me (we were together for almost a year)! So, in my opinion, any form of breaking up is fine...as long as they do it.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
I agree -- do it in person. Be truthful, direct, and deliver it with sensitivity. JMHO.
VicVicVictooriaa VicVicVictooriaa 6 years
There is no nice way to break up with someone...but to make the blow easier, watch your actions in the days following the breakup...and please don't lie.I just went through a breakup about a month ago and things would have been ok if he (26) did not hookup with a girl (20) who I have mutual friends with about 5 hours after the fact, especially since he claimed "it was not about wanting to be with other people."So as someone who just went through something tough...just don't lie to the person whose heart you are breaking...be upfront and sincere, you've been through enough together that sincerity and honesty is owed to the person you are destroying.Oh and DO NOT pretend you know what he or she is going through, everyone deals with sadness in their own way and as the person breaking up with them...you should not lecture about how to cope with things...im a little bitter.
VicVicVictooriaa VicVicVictooriaa 6 years
There is no nice way to break up with someone...but to make the blow easier, watch your actions in the days following the breakup...and please don't lie. I just went through a breakup about a month ago and things would have been ok if he (26) did not hookup with a girl (20) who I have mutual friends with about 5 hours after the fact, especially since he claimed "it was not about wanting to be with other people." So as someone who just went through something tough...just don't lie to the person whose heart you are breaking...be upfront and sincere, you've been through enough together that sincerity and honesty is owed to the person you are destroying. Oh and DO NOT pretend you know what he or she is going through, everyone deals with sadness in their own way and as the person breaking up with them...you should not lecture about how to cope with things... im a little bitter.
Hiding55 Hiding55 6 years
You really can't nicely break up with someone. In my own experience I find that when you try to be extra nice while breaking up it leaves the other person with the false hope of getting back together. That's a big no no.
nancita nancita 6 years
Doing it in person, as soon as you know you have to do it.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 6 years
The best way is to be direct and honest and give the person enough consideration to break up with them in person. And never say "we can still be friends." If you really can still be friends that goes without saying. That phrase makes it sound like consolation instead of real friendship.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 6 years
I think the nicest way to break up with someone is to grow some cojones and break up with them. The nicest way to say it may be, "We have some great memories but I'm ready to move on with my life."The worst way is to treat the person like garbage in hopes that they'll dump you. I've had that happen to me a couple times, and it leaves a lot of self doubt behind, even after the relationship is over.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 6 years
I think the nicest way to break up with someone is to grow some cojones and break up with them. The nicest way to say it may be, "We have some great memories but I'm ready to move on with my life." The worst way is to treat the person like garbage in hopes that they'll dump you. I've had that happen to me a couple times, and it leaves a lot of self doubt behind, even after the relationship is over.
dexaholic dexaholic 6 years
I don't know if there is a "nice" way to breakup with someone, but do it when you realize the relationship over, and don't drag it out.
skigurl skigurl 6 years
i sat here looking at this comment box for awhile and now i can't actually think of a nice way to break up with someone....there's definitely respectful ways and you can be nice about it and not make someone absolutely hate themselves, but the harder you try to make it a "nice" breakup, the lamer the other person is likely to feel
lemamike lemamike 6 years
I was reading Men's Health once and a guy wrote in saying he was planning on breaking up with his girlfriend but she had just lost her job. He didnt want to break up with her then saying hed feel like an asshole. The person giving advice said that was a better time to break up with her. she would suffer another blow and it would be hard for her but she would make it through and it would be better than her getting another job feeling really great again and THEN getting the blow of the breakup. Thought that was interesting.
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