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I'm in my early 20s and I'm still a virgin. I didn't plan to still be a virgin by this point in my life . . . it just sort of worked out that way. So right now I'm dating this really cute guy and he's giving all these signs that he's ready to take the next step.
I know I should tell him about being a virgin and all that, but I don't want him to be disgusted or condescending when he finds out. I know I'll bleed during my first time and there's nothing that can be done about that, but I'd rather him find out AFTER (during?) the fact. What I really need help with is preparing myself in anyway possible. What should I expect? I've read romance books my whole life, so how much of that is true? What was it like your first time? I am so nervous just thinking about it. Please don't lecture me about not telling him or waiting longer for someone "special." I won't change my mind, I'd just really appreciate knowing what I'm doing. Thanks.