I'm 24 and my boyfriend of four years is 25. We aren't ready to get married right now, but we want to move in together. Should we talk about our future now or just move in together and see how things progress? Confused About Commitment Conversations and Cohabitation
Dear Confused About Commitment Conversations and Cohabitation
Yes. You should definitely talk about everything BEFORE you get married. Marriage can be hard enough; if you guys want 2 different things then it's never going to be easy for you. At least start off with all the hope in the world! I am a believer in living together before you get married. But -- you've got to do it with the intention of getting engaged within 6 months to a year. If that is too soon for you then I think you should wait. If you move in too soon, then you will get too comfortable. That's where the "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" phrase comes from. You don't want him to get complacent.