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Where Do You Stand? Dating People From Work

A good friend of mine met and married her now husband at work. Although there is a lot of controversy surrounding it, I think it's the perfect way to meet and get to know someone. You get to see them everyday, get a feel for how they interact with others, see what they look like on good days and bad, and have lunch dates whenever you want. Since you work together, you clearly have some common interests and many things to talk about.

There's just one thing that may not be ideal. What if things don't work out? You'd then have to live with the awkwardness of having to see and work with your ex day in and day out. So ladies, I want to know, when it comes to dating people from work, where do you stand?

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eloise81 eloise81 8 years
It's tough. I met my boyfriend through work - but we're in different departments. Definitely think it's a bad idea if it's your boss. As long as both of you can be professional about it and keep your relationship outside of the office, I'm all for it. Though it does create some interesting complications.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
Mmmm that's a toughie... I want to say it's not a good idea - but you can't help who you fall in love with...
bonbonagogo bonbonagogo 8 years
I met my fiance while we worked together. He was my supervisor. We didn't start dating until after I left the job. Now, I couldn't fathom working AND living with him!!! :)
invazngirl invazngirl 8 years
my last bf (lasted for 2 years) i met at work. we dated for half a year before i got another job offer elsewhere, so i just figured i'd take it since it'd make things easier, esp since he became my superior. we worked in the same department, with each other quite often. people that worked close around us knew we were dating, but it was never a problem because we always kept it professional and we got our work done. the current guy i'm seeing now is at work too. this is a relatively new thing and he's super concerned about the work no-dating policy since he loves his job. however this time, it worries me. all in all, i think dating arises easily from the office since you guys see each other so much (it's like having crushes back at school), but i do prefer to date outside the office when given a chance.
kl2030 kl2030 8 years
I'm dating someone from work. It has been a year and a half and so far, so good!
sunami sunami 8 years
Relationships at work should never happen. The only time I agree is when 2 consending adults who keep the relationship a secret and keep no strings attached. If you cannot keep a secret and you are emotional attached, you should not have any relationships at work. once its out...you will never hear the end of it.
telewyo telewyo 8 years
I recently dated someone who works for an agency that reviews my company's plans. I thought he was a professional and it wouldn't matter if it worked out or not. We only went out on 4 dates but he was whiney and needy and said he was in love with me after the third one so I ended it quickly and he was not happy. Now everytime he finds a question with our plans i wonder if it's really a problem or if he's trying to make things difficult on purpose. He does seem ridiculously picky since I ended things. Never again!
Beaner Beaner 8 years
As long as yo're professional about it, I say why not?
Jack-D Jack-D 8 years
I work on a corporate campus of about 5,000 employees, so working at the same place as my bf has never been an issue. Its kind of nice knowing that if I am having a rough day or received good news I can easily meet up with him and tell him. But also, unless we plan on meeting somewhere on campus, we never run into eachother.
Martini-Rossi Martini-Rossi 8 years
IMO I dont think its a good idea. If it doesnt work out then youll have to see that person every day whether you want to or not. Also, where do you draw the line? I have a co-worker who has dated at least 3 ppl from work already! I mean, this is work, not a dating services.
sugarbritches sugarbritches 8 years
It's all about the details, but for the most part I don't see a problem with it if you can be professional at work.
nikodarling nikodarling 8 years
It fraught with so many negative possibilities. I would advise against it, but lets face it sometimes you can't help who you want to be with. You need to be mature enough to keep your private life out of the office for it to work.
fashionhore fashionhore 8 years
Did it once, didn't work out, will never do it again! I just don't find it ethical or smart.
Marci Marci 8 years
Dating your boss is a big no-no. If you're doing that, it's time to find another job, stat. But I have no issues with people at work dating as long as everyone behaves like a grown-up about it and is prepared for the fact that things might not work out. But we meet similar types at our jobs, so why not?
FrogPrincess165 FrogPrincess165 8 years
I do it all the time and it always ends badly. Make sure you would really want to risk a perfectly good friendship to possibly cause people to take sides if it ends badly
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 8 years
I met my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years, who I live with, at work. It was a company of about 200 people and we worked in different departments so it wasn't a big deal at all. Now, if it was a tiny office, it might have been weird. But in general, I think that as long as a couple can separate their work from their relationship, it's not a problem.
candace117 candace117 8 years
In the Army, they frown on fraternization. Technically the really bad type is officer to enlisted, because it jeopardizes the split between officer ranks and enlisted. Enlisted superiors to subordinates is also kind of a no-no. There are exceptions, like if you met before you were in the same unit, etc. My husband and I are in the same job, and he's a higher rank than I am so technically he is my boss. Nobody gives us flak because we knew each other and were together before he joined my unit, and also the bottom line is we are extremely professional at work. Most people in the unit didn't even know we were together until people were congratulating us on being married a few months ago. So, that speaks to how well we separated work and home. Especially in the military, due to how much counseling goes on, and on the job mentorship. The bottom line is that we are professional at work, and people can respect that and can find no flaw on which to attack. If you can be professional, there is no problem!
AujahAcorn AujahAcorn 8 years
my bf of 5 years and i have been working together for 4 years.
elizabelle elizabelle 8 years
never. I'm with citizenkane. Plus it would be too much of the same. I really enjoy being with someone who has a different career than mine, with different challenges and goals.
bfly1133 bfly1133 8 years
Well, I dated then married someone I worked with. :) It was residential life and it is pretty normal to marry within in that circle. In fact, there are four of couples in our group of friends that got together because of Res Life. I think it can be done, but you need to make sure you consider everything and can be professional about it.
esensuality esensuality 8 years
I would never do that. I dated a girl from work once and when we broke up all they other girls were cross with me.
citizenkane citizenkane 8 years
I don't think I could be around someone that much.
SummerBaby SummerBaby 8 years
i think it all depends on the size of the company you work for.. if its a big one, and you dont really see one another through out the day then you know its not like you work together you just work at the same company
fleurfairy fleurfairy 8 years
As long as it doesn't get in the way of doing your job, I'm all for it.
cubadog cubadog 8 years
I am in the middle on this one. I don't think that your dating your boss is such a good idea and at a smaller company than I think you are asking for trouble. At a larger company it would be a lot easier more space to be your own.
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