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Where Do You Stand? Dating by Text

If computers are the new way to meet people, then texting is the new flirting. Now, instead of sending flowers, guys can just send a text. And instead of calling you between dates to check in, all they have to do is send a teaser via mobile. Obviously, I’m being sarcastic!

In fact, lately all I hear about is how texting is ruining dating. I have more than one girlfriend who’ve deemed this the most annoying trend of all time. But it’s not just the guys’ fault. My same friends who complain are the ones who text right back, instead of demanding a phone call. But maybe I’m not taking this seriously enough. What do you ladies think? Are you all about using text for your predate interactions? Where do you stand when it comes to dating by text?

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Mentos Mentos 6 years
obviously men use texting more cause they lazy ! personally i do prefer phone calls .. it just transfers our real emotions .. texts are not clear enough to show our feelings with !
mama-cass mama-cass 7 years
omg, i'm doing this with a guy right now. and i must say i like it. i'm not one for a bunch of phone-talking. i like the face to face, and those too-common lulls in the conversation over the phone can really burn out the desire for someone. so i prefer quick, to the point flirty texts. it breezes past all the niceties and gets right to the "you're hots." i thought i was the only one who did this!
mama-cass mama-cass 7 years
omg, i'm doing this with a guy right now. and i must say i like it. i'm not one for a bunch of phone-talking. i like the face to face, and those too-common lulls in the conversation over the phone can really burn out the desire for someone. so i prefer quick, to the point flirty texts. it breezes past all the niceties and gets right to the "you're hots." i thought i was the only one who did this!
designerel designerel 7 years
I'm not a phone person at all, so I like texting. I think it's cute at the beginning when you've had your first date and he texts to see if you got home all right. Of course it shouldn't replace phone calls, but it's a nice supplement. I've been with my guy 5 months and we text all the time-- only time we're on the phone really is to let him know something, we don't call each other just to chat. I talk to him all day at work on gchat and when we get home we text so... it works out better for us. We're just not phone people. It's funny-- we talked on the phone a hell of a lot more in the beginning. Hmm.
schar schar 7 years
I HATE texting and it's a deal breaker when I first start dating someone. Texting something quick that doesn't need a reply is fine but that's about it. Call me old fashioned...
missluckygenes missluckygenes 7 years
texting someone you know already is one thing, but GETTING to know someone thru texting is bizarre to me......how can you really get to KNOW someone if youre NOT spending time WITH them, talking TO them, BEING in their presence, not just mentally and emotionally, but physically as well. Text dating seems creepy, bc its so depersonalized....words are words......they do and mean different things to different people, depending on WHO said them.....SPOKE them, not hastily texted them while they are multitasking, putting the other persons importance to the side. its unnatural.....you're communicating w someone you dont know yet without being in their actual presence. thats different than relying a text to someone you KNEW already, The text is a tool to quickly pass info to others, not to get to KNOW them well. reading someone's words, or even books, doesn't equate to really knowing them. Neither is text dating or computer dating. its not fully real....you should be communicating this way w someone you already know, not vise versa.
LilyLyra LilyLyra 7 years
My fiance and I text alot. Since we're in a long distance relationship its not always easy for us to call whenever we would like, so texting is a much better option in between phone calls and video calls on skype.
Marci Marci 7 years
Texting is fine and fun if you're sort of established as a dating couple, but before that I think it's impersonal. I want the guy I'm seeing to want to talk to me, get to know me, hear my voice and me hear his voice.....That's the person you're dating, not a cell phone.
Marci Marci 7 years
Texting is fine and fun if you're sort of established as a dating couple, but before that I think it's impersonal. I want the guy I'm seeing to want to talk to me, get to know me, hear my voice and me hear his voice.....That's the person you're dating, not a cell phone.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 7 years
Texting is great because it's easy for times when you can't talk on the phone. It's okay for solidifying plans but not for making them. It's not okay for wooing me because it's not going to work. I like a quick text every now and then but I'm not down for long text conversations when we both could easily be talking on the phone. It's fun for talking when one or both of you are at work or otherwise can't talk but don't hold serious conversations by text (not that on the phone is too much better). I'm not going to be impressed by something you said in a text that you can't or won't say on the phone or to my face.
AppleBloosom AppleBloosom 7 years
Texting for me depends on where the relationship is. For a potential relationship, its best to build trust and by building trust hearing someone’s voice often is very vital. It helps you to learn their standard tone or when he is joking or being sarcastic. This allows you to get a sense of if the person is truly available to date, by paying attention when he is texting and when he is calling you on the phone (Does he only call in the day time, and text sporadically in the evenings). This helps you narrow down if he really taking you serious and not just texting you whenever the mood strikes. A person should hold a conversation audio (Meaning when they are both on the phone together) more than communicating by text. Him taking out the time to pick up the phone ensures me it’s possible that he may be taking this new friendship serious. I think it falls in the category of text etiquette. Hearing a person voice helps builds a connection and can strengthen it as well.
AppleBloosom AppleBloosom 7 years
Texting for me depends on where the relationship is. For a potential relationship, its best to build trust and by building trust hearing someone’s voice often is very vital. It helps you to learn their standard tone or when he is joking or being sarcastic. This allows you to get a sense of if the person is truly available to date, by paying attention when he is texting and when he is calling you on the phone (Does he only call in the day time, and text sporadically in the evenings). This helps you narrow down if he really taking you serious and not just texting you whenever the mood strikes.A person should hold a conversation audio (Meaning when they are both on the phone together) more than communicating by text. Him taking out the time to pick up the phone ensures me it’s possible that he may be taking this new friendship serious. I think it falls in the category of text etiquette. Hearing a person voice helps builds a connection and can strengthen it as well.
tomatoshirt tomatoshirt 7 years
My ex loves texting. I only love texting when i don't want to talk to the person... so i guess that explains the break up...
sparklestar sparklestar 7 years
I rarely call people nowadays. Texting is fine.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 7 years
It doesn't take much effort to call someone. If he can't even do that then he's not worth my time.
SassAndBide SassAndBide 7 years
..see the thing is. its easier to communicate via text msg but sometimes things get interpreted the wrong way. i prefer phone calls anyway..
SassAndBide SassAndBide 7 years
..see the thing is.its easier to communicate via text msg but sometimes things get interpreted the wrong way. i prefer phone calls anyway..
txcowgrl077 txcowgrl077 7 years
I used to be a text 'whore'. I still text a lot, but rarely do I initiate a conversation through it. I hate cell phones in general. They have become an evil necessary though. E-mail, internet, voice mail, texting.. all of its on my phone. I despise when guys text me instead of calling me; but I guess it makes some sense. I work 20 hrs a day.. and can maybe talk an hour combined through that. However... My mom has no trouble getting ahold of me!
txcowgrl077 txcowgrl077 7 years
I used to be a text 'whore'. I still text a lot, but rarely do I initiate a conversation through it. I hate cell phones in general. They have become an evil necessary though. E-mail, internet, voice mail, texting.. all of its on my phone. I despise when guys text me instead of calling me; but I guess it makes some sense. I work 20 hrs a day.. and can maybe talk an hour combined through that. However... My mom has no trouble getting ahold of me!
Lavinie Lavinie 7 years
i don't think some text messages here and there are bad... especially if there a lil flirtatious. BUT i don't think it should take place of having a conversation here and there. i'm not much for the phone but i wouldn't like that all our conversations in between dates is via text message. i still feel that when you start dating - text messaging can be a lil impersonal.
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 7 years
I read somewhere once that it's important to do the things you did when you first met in order to keep the relationship alive.. So yeah, we text, email, and go out for drinks to mingle with our friends at our favorite club sometimes. (well, he doesn't drink, but he gets me free drinks because he used to work there.) If I notice we're not texting or emailing or conversing about things that pulled us together, then I try to throw it in the mix again.
CYL CYL 7 years
I think a friend of mine got dumped via txt msg...now THAT was crappy
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