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Where Do You Stand: Men That Refer to You With Pet Names

Calling your significant other by a pet name is a cute term of endearment, but it makes my skin crawl when a guy calls me hot stuff, sweetie, darling, or baby when we're not in a relationship! I'm sure they mean no harm by it, but when they reuse those nicknames with more than one woman at a time, they lose their value and become way too contrived. Of course, this is just my opinion so tell me where you stand on men that aren't your boyfriends calling you pet names. Does it make you feel special or do you find it way too phony and cheesy?

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LittleMzFit LittleMzFit 6 years
To me, it's all about the timing and whether they are truly genuine. If it's way too soon and someone you aren't sure about, it can be a huge turnoff. Only once did a guy call me a petname that my ex-husband used to use. That brought back bad memories! One guy used to call me "Doll." I always thought that was sweet and genuine coming from him.
JamieWinters JamieWinters 7 years
If a man I've never met calls my "baby" or something, I may enjoy it if he seems nice, but if he's sleazy, I think it's gross. It depends on the context, I guess. I like women to call me pet names, and I often call people "love", myself.
CaffeePants CaffeePants 7 years
My husband calls me pet names in private (usually nonsensical things he makes up on the spot). We both tend to tone in down in front of others. My boss called me "pretty girl" once. I promptly reminded him that I am only 4 years older than his daughter so that stopped quickly. A lot of my regular customers call me hon or sweetie and it doesn't really bother me. Strange men calling me baby doesn't make me angry or weirded out, just sort of embarrassed for them because they wind up looking like a sleezeball.
northofantastic northofantastic 7 years
With my boyfriend I definitely don't mind because his pet names are funny and could never be associated with someone else. With just random men, I can't stand it and find it a bit disturbing. :P
Jude-C Jude-C 7 years
This one dude called me "Chinadoll" once. (I'm Asian.) I almost punched him.
Melo-D Melo-D 7 years
I'm fine with it as long as it's not demeaning. The only thing I won't allow is "babygirl". ABSOLUTELY not allowed. My grandfather called me that so only very special people in my life have the privilege of calling me babygirl. Other than that don't say "hey yo" or any other foolishness.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 7 years
Random guys calling me baby creeps me out. They usually do it as a way to harass me, but even if he was just having a conversation with me, I would think it was inappropriate.
violinladyfreak violinladyfreak 7 years
My hubby calls me Rubinho (my name is Ruby), he started saying that during the 2006 FIFA cup and the brazilian soccer fever. I like specific pet names more than the traditional honey sweetie babe etc.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
I'm with you DearSug -- I don't like pet names from strange men. Ironically, I'm fine when strange women call me pet names, but not men.
jessie jessie 7 years
my dh calls me baby or my name. i used to have a neighbor that called me baby all the time. it didn't bother me. it was just his personality, we were close enough neighbors so that what he called me. pet names really don't bother me all that much. half the time i tune it out anyways. i pick my battles, to me, as long as his hands aren't on me, fine by me.
Rebecca14916991 Rebecca14916991 7 years
I don't mind if my boyfriend, my friends or my family members use pet names, or if elderly women do either; southern women trying to be friendly are okay too as long as they don't overdo it. With elderly men if it's a casual "thank you dear" or something similar that you can tell is almost involuntary I don't mind, but that is where I draw the line. Everything else is creepy. I really don't know why some men think it's okay. Seriously, do they think that calling someone "baby" automatically gets them laid? *shakes head* Seriously, some people don't know what personal boundaries are.
Nickety Nickety 7 years
Where I'm from names like "pet" "darling" and "love" are commonly used by all members of the public. I actually really like it. It's not invasive or threatening in anyway, no one means anything by it, they're just acknowledging you in a friendly way. I love the nicknames my boyfriend gives me, even the ones that other people use. If a shopkeeper says "cheers love", it's so different to how my boyfriend says "come here my love" or whatever. I think it depends entirely upon context and how you interpret the name.
superjules superjules 7 years
I can't remember any strange man doing that to me in so many years. If one did, I would just give him a pet name back. Like limpd!ck or wrinkles or something equally offensive. Turnabout is fair play.
bengalspice bengalspice 7 years
I hate when complete strangers use those terms with me when I'm out and about ... but the kitchen staff in my office address me with Mi Amor ... which I think is really cute and sweet on their part instead of annoying. It's an easy way for them to use those terms instead of remembering the names of the hundreds of customers they see everyday.
glam-sugar glam-sugar 7 years
I hate when people I don't know call me names like that. It's creepy.
SusanTeufel SusanTeufel 7 years
I like pet names from someone I love or care for, like my fiance, or a family member (Honey, Sweetie) My future MIL calls me by pet names, but I believe that is a southern things (She is from Kentucky), but I like it. I find it better than Susie (I hate when strangers call me Susie, or worse, Susie Q...That song makes me feel weird, lol) If it was some random guy, I'd be like "Pssh, you wish, bub."
Tami715 Tami715 7 years
I honestly can't remember the last time my boyfriend of almost 3 years has called me by my name, it's always "baby". It just feels more natural for us to use pet names with each other. My personal trainer calls me "my dear" or "my darling" all the time. "2 more sets, my darling", he's cool though, so I'm ok with that. Any other random men using anything other than my name kind of skeeves me out.
Jude-C Jude-C 7 years
"i'm just like: Does that EVER work?" EXACTLY!
theCatsPajamas theCatsPajamas 7 years
i seriously don't get why strange men do this. dudes on the street are always walking by me going "looking good, baby!". i'm just like: Does that EVER work? how would you feel if i were your sister? it gives me serious skeeves.
Blackwood Blackwood 7 years
I LOATHE pet names!! Especially if they come from a boyfriend/lover! Come on! It makes me nauseous to hear "cute couples" call each other like that in front of eeeeverybody! It just sounds so ridiculous and over the top! I don't like random strangers call me pet names either, but from a partner... it just sounds so childish and cliché, it would make me feel rather stupid... at least in public, maybe in private I wouldn't mind that much... but come on...that's what my first name's for! (everybody else can just call me Blackwood, so it doesn't wear out :)) Oh, well... each to their own. Although, I can deal with old ladies calling me pet names, and I wouldn't see no harm if somebody who I know calls everyone random pet names calls me like that (it's not because it's me). Bottom line, I think I could tolerate being called pet names by everyone EXCEPT from a boyfriend.
mks0880 mks0880 7 years
some overbearing guy called me 'sweetie' at the church picnic where I was serving food. I totally didn't even register that he was talking to me. I guess that's a good sign that times are changing - men use pet names very infrequently with me. I have a PhD though, so I wonder if I would get more of this if people didn't know what my job was??
Kimpossible Kimpossible 7 years
I don't mind it at all. As long as it's complementary and not "hey you" or "yo b***ch" but hon, sweetie, babe, good looking, pretty lady etc.. don't bother me at all.
bransugar79 bransugar79 7 years
Ihave a huge issue with strangers calling me by anything other than my actual name. Even my first name if you're just a random stranger i.e. teller at a bank or cashier at Target or something just call me Mrs. ... . I absolutely hate when guys call me baby and if a woman I don't know calls me honey or dear it makes my blood boil. I guess I got it from my mom because she hates that stuff too. Now I livein the south where everyone calls you hun or soemthing like that. One morning in the drive through at McDonalds the lady on eth loudspeaker called my husband baby. That was funny though!
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 7 years
My boyfriend calls me baby, or hon, or toots (as a joke) and that's fine. But if anyone else does so, they're going to get an earful. There's this homeless guy who likes to hang near my local Dunkin Donuts, and very frequently, he'll say "Hey, sweetheart, do you have any spare change?" And I tell him every time "Do NOT call me sweetheart."
Marni7 Marni7 7 years
gross and cheesy!!! EXCEPT if it's a guy im dating, like my boyfriend..but when it is a random guy you just met (or havent even met but happened to be walking down the street next to) its cheesy! It makes me uncomfortable too..like please dont look at me..i want to run and hide lol
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