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Which Comes First? Sex or Oral Sex

When you first start dating someone, it doesn't take long to have your first kiss. Once that's behind, you'll probably be spending more time making out on the couch than watching whatever movie you rented! The passion can fire up quickly and smooching will inevitably lead to touching, which will lead to what? The answer to that question is different for everyone since comfort levels vary, so when it comes to intimacy in your new relationships, tell me, which comes first?

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calli-gurl calli-gurl 7 years
LOL! why would someone feel uncomfy with doing oral with just anyone but having sex is fine? oral isnt personal. intercourse is! what kind of person would let just any guy in there? EWW!!
bailaoragaditana bailaoragaditana 7 years
Intercourse first. Oral is waaay more intimate/requiring of trust - and if the mister even tries to push/hold my head down, there are no more BJs until he learns better.
Cris1192 Cris1192 7 years
Most of the time for me it's oral first
Seka21 Seka21 7 years
I dont belive in oraling until you love me..sex is sex and protected but nomally oral is bare and to be honest..unless i know you well enought to sleep with you without a condom you aint going near my thing or me near your thing... DO you know how many things you can get!? If a man goes down on you and had bleeding gums, or a cold sore...anything he has you get.. some women are far to casual for their own good.
Seka21 Seka21 7 years
I dont belive in oraling until you love me..sex is sex and protected but nomally oral is bare and to be honest..unless i know you well enought to sleep with you without a condom you aint going near my thing or me near your thing...DO you know how many things you can get!? If a man goes down on you and had bleeding gums, or a cold sore...anything he has you get.. some women are far to casual for their own good.
karlotta karlotta 7 years
Oral sex is very intimate, and can have that vibe of "dominance" : you, on your knees, with the guy's thing in your mouth... you better love and respect me before I give that to you. Not that I give sex away to anyone - LOL; but at least I get my rocks off too. As for me, I've only met one guy who knew how to do it properly - my BF. So most of my exes, I'd just wave away from down there!
karlotta karlotta 7 years
Oral sex is very intimate, and can have that vibe of "dominance" : you, on your knees, with the guy's thing in your mouth... you better love and respect me before I give that to you. Not that I give sex away to anyone - LOL; but at least I get my rocks off too.As for me, I've only met one guy who knew how to do it properly - my BF. So most of my exes, I'd just wave away from down there!
NAUGHTYshugga NAUGHTYshugga 7 years
NOW THAT I HAVE MY LOVE BY MY SIDE I SEE I DID THINGS ACCORDING TO THE PASSION AND FIRE BETWEEN US AS TO WHAT CAME FIRST...I NEVER DID ORAL FIRST IN ANY OF MY RELATIONSHIPS UNTIL MY LOVE CAME ALONG...I MAINLY RECEIVED ORAL THEN HAD INTERCOURSE AND I MIGHT GIVE ORAL AFTER A FEW SESSIONS..SOMETIMES I ONLY HAD INTERCOURSE BUT THAT BEING KINDA BORING AFTER A WHILE THE RELATIONSHIP DID NOT LAST..
VicVicVictooriaa VicVicVictooriaa 7 years
also, apparently people can't read and are NOT understanding the question posed...
VicVicVictooriaa VicVicVictooriaa 7 years
In my current relationship for the past 8 1/2 months it was the first time I had sex. I had sex with him wayyyy (read: 2 months) before he gave me oral sex and way way way (read: 7 1/2 months) before i gave him oral sex. I find oral sex to be extremely personal...
LoveSarah LoveSarah 7 years
Oral needs to come before all the juices have been spilled, if you catch my drift. It's to help move things along, and get you even more worked up before the home run.
jessie jessie 7 years
okay...when we started dating...i gave him blowjobs for a while...then we moved to intercourse. its just how it progessed in our relationship.
jessie jessie 7 years
okay...when we started dating...i gave him blowjobs for a while...then we moved to intercourse. its just how it progessed in our relationship.
sparklestar sparklestar 7 years
With my current boyfriend I gave him oral first and then we had intercourse like straight after... but we've known each other and been good friends for a long time now so we were already emotionally intimate. Usually they don't get oral til they prove themselves to me. My ex got like 2 blowjobs in 1.5 years so I don't give it out easily. ;p
sparklestar sparklestar 7 years
With my current boyfriend I gave him oral first and then we had intercourse like straight after... but we've known each other and been good friends for a long time now so we were already emotionally intimate.Usually they don't get oral til they prove themselves to me. My ex got like 2 blowjobs in 1.5 years so I don't give it out easily. ;p
adorKablefae adorKablefae 7 years
I guess my current relationship was kind of odd... We definitely had sex before oral, but it always goes the other way for me. But maybe there's something to be said for doing it this way- this has been my healthiest and longest relationship!
aimeeb aimeeb 7 years
I'm with starangel82. I find oral much more intimate and only choose to do so with people I've dated for quite some time. I find sex to be less intimate if it's just someone I'm "dating."
kluster86 kluster86 7 years
oral first.. i need to be warmed up a bit before i go staright into intercourse
pixelhaze pixelhaze 7 years
you know I have found this varies by culture . . in the US oral is not as big a deal, and a girl might have even done that many times before losing her virginity. Where I grew up it's the opposite and oral is a much more intimate thing - couples might have been sleeping together for a while and still not done that. I know some people who save it for marriage. I can see both sides actually . . . I feel like oral does require a lot of intimacy to do well, and to feel comfortable with. However intercourse is more invasive, I guess, so some people would feel more comfortable with the former.
pixelhaze pixelhaze 7 years
you know I have found this varies by culture . . in the US oral is not as big a deal, and a girl might have even done that many times before losing her virginity. Where I grew up it's the opposite and oral is a much more intimate thing - couples might have been sleeping together for a while and still not done that. I know some people who save it for marriage. I can see both sides actually . . . I feel like oral does require a lot of intimacy to do well, and to feel comfortable with. However intercourse is more invasive, I guess, so some people would feel more comfortable with the former.
Myst Myst 7 years
lol wow, I'm surprised by the amount of intercourse first on here.
geebers geebers 7 years
Guess I am the minority- I find oral really intimate and truly requires unselfishness on both sides. I would rather have intercourse first and be comfortable before I did that.
rellicDragon rellicDragon 7 years
After heavy makin out, its oral on him ... and then oral on me if he insists (except i am not usually very comfortable with it) and then intercourse ... I was surprised to learn how many women share the same opinions about being comfortable giving oral but not receiving it ... glad to learn that I am not the only one ...
rellicDragon rellicDragon 7 years
After heavy makin out, its oral on him ... and then oral on me if he insists (except i am not usually very comfortable with it) and then intercourse ... I was surprised to learn how many women share the same opinions about being comfortable giving oral but not receiving it ... glad to learn that I am not the only one ...
Hiding55 Hiding55 7 years
I think what Dear meant was, in the relationship what comes after kissing and heavy petting not what order do you like things to occur in a love making session. For me, in a relationship after the initial make out phase sex comes next then oral. Sex is obviously personal but oral is way more personal so that always comes after the first sexual encounter for me. Once I've gotten to know the person well then I definitely vote for oral then sex during the same sexual encounter because oral after sex is just messy.
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