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Who Do You Think Should Pay For Dinner On A First Date?

The traditional school of thought is that the man is expected to pay for a woman on their first date. Females were brought up to believe that this is a very nurturing gesture. She appreciates being treated like a special lady and in turn is expected to be on her best behavior.

However, with times a changing so quickly, oftentimes, the woman makes more money or equal income as her date and feels that she can either pay or she can split the check with her date. What is important to remember is that whoever winds up paying, usually this sends the message that they are interested.

How do you feel about this topic? What is your opinion on who should pay for dinner on a first date?

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nursebetty nursebetty 7 years
Guy should pay no doubt about it. Girl may offer if she wants but guy should say no. After 2nd date then guys should let girls pay sometimes too.
SKC-Sparkle SKC-Sparkle 7 years
This is a toughie! I chose Go Dutch, but the problem I have is if he persues.
Adrianne Adrianne 9 years
I chose Other. Here's my belief. If he's the one who did the asking and you agreed, then split the costs. If you're the one who did the asking, you pay for it.
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
"If you pursue, then you pay." Good rule.
curleyjo84 curleyjo84 9 years
i think it should be dutch but my bext friend believe the guy should always pay. she is very old fashioned.
Deba Deba 9 years
I'm old fashion - first date I would say the guy pays. What my bf and I usually do is, he pays the dinner and I pay whatever comes next after dinner.... movie, snacks, delivery food, rented movie...
JK-Boogie JK-Boogie 9 years
The man always pays ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Be an innovator not an imitator...copying is plagiarism and plagiarism is stealing.
vmruby vmruby 9 years
whoever does the asking should pay.....
uptowngirl1999 uptowngirl1999 9 years
I agree, I think whoever asks should foot the bill. But I don't think there is anything wrong with the opposite person leaving the tip either.
yiddidea yiddidea 9 years
If you ask you pay. Makes sense to me.
Jinx Jinx 9 years
Agreed, whoever invited should pay the bill. You can't invite a man to dinner, expecting him to pay. lol ------------------------------------------------------ Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. — Albert Einstein
paigesweetkisses paigesweetkisses 9 years
Down here in the south, we believe the guy should always pay :P
martini-queenie martini-queenie 9 years
I always offer to pay, but do not expect them to accept. If they do, it will probably be our last date. Then again, I never ask guys out so I guess it still goes by the "whoever asks, pays" rule.
bluejeanie bluejeanie 9 years
whoever asks, pays.
the-makeup-blogette the-makeup-blogette 9 years
1. whoever did the asking pays. 2. whoever suggested the dining place/movie to watch pays. 3. whoever wants to be in control pays. 4. whoever paid for dinner, the other party can pay for drinks/movies etc later.
JessNess JessNess 9 years
Im always for whoever asks is the one who pays. Being me though I always offer to at least pay my half.
yayita yayita 9 years
it is not prostitution, you aint sleeping with for monet girl. This is teh way it usually happens, the men pay. But my rule is, who ever invites pays regardless fo sex
katie225 katie225 9 years
i'm old fashioned. i look pretty, he pays. i don't really care if people think this is similar to prostitution, lol. ;)
cubadog cubadog 9 years
I only insist on paying when I know I am not going to go out with them again. Otherwise I let him pickup the bill.
Tiinnaaaa Tiinnaaaa 9 years
i think the guy should pay
UrbanBohemian UrbanBohemian 9 years
Whoever asks the person out should pay for sure.
rbuss05 rbuss05 9 years
what about same-sex couples?! who ever asks pays! if thats an issue, when the check comes see how your date reacts. if he/she reaches for a wallet to pay--offer to pay or split the check evenly, if that is what you wish. otherwise let your date know that you have dinner. if there are plans for after dinner, offer to buy dinner and then say "you can get drinks" or whatever your plans may be. at any rete, the inviter should pay for the invitee.
Masqueraded_Angel Masqueraded_Angel 9 years
I think that a proper gentleman should pay on the first date, since the whole "wooing" factor is in there somewhere. Afterwards, I would be perfectly Ok with splitting the bill or whatever. :)
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