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Group Therapy: Always the Friend, Never the Girlfriend

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This is a problem I have been experiencing since I hit puberty and started showing interest in guys. For some reason, whenever I get together with a crush, I get the buddy treatment and they divulge to me their girls problems, which generally means there is no chance for me.

It happened again yesterday. The guy I've been crushing on for a few months and I finally made plans to hang out. There had been a lot of obvious flirtation at work and I was pretty sure there was a mutual interest. He picked me up yesterday and we went for a walk. We had lots to talk about and seem to have similar senses of humor. When it got cold out we came back to my house to watch a movie. Once there, he began to spill about a girl he was casually seeing for the past few months and how things are pretty rocky (she was leading him on while dating another guy, though he wasn't aware of the boyfriend).

Obviously, I have been relegated to sympathetic female friend once again. I would just like to know why this keeps happening, or what I can do to avoid this in the future? Any tips please? I'm sick of being "friended!!"

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