6 Reasons Romantic Comedies Secretly Depress Us

Twins Karen and Kristy Ambrose, also known as The Ambrose Girls, share their reasons rom-coms are actually supersad.

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Every girl in the entire world loves romantic comedies. They have a special place in our hearts; they just get us. They are there for our entertainment purposes on our good days, and they comfort us on our bad days.

We go to our favorite rom-coms as a way to identify with love again, a way to laugh, a way to cry. Hell, some of our faves we have seen so many times, we actually start to think the storyline is 100 percent fact and the male and female actors are still living blissfully in love. The thing with our beloved rom-coms is that they kind of, dare we say it, depress us. And this is how our favorite flicks do this:

1. They make us believe in unlikely scenarios.

Here is where we get the idea that someone someday might love us so much they will run through the airport begging us not to board a plane, or that a guy will show up in the pouring rain, flowers in hand. Yes, these stories are amazingly awesome and romantic; however, are they realistic?

2. They give us hope guys will realize they f*cked up and will make up for it in a big way.

OK, NO OFFENSE to the guys in the world (take a deep breath y'all, we don't mean every one of you). But if you ask any girl, more often than not, when a guy messes up, he does absolutely nothing about it. We all have stories of guys who walked away or screwed girls over without ever hearing from them again. Radio. Silence. Our love for romantic comedies has us ready and waiting for him to come back at any minute, since they all do in the movies. This leaves us disappointed as we continually check our phones for not even so much as a text and our doorsteps for flowers that will never come. Has any one girl ever told a real-life story of a guy wanting her back so badly that he stages a full-on flash mob in Grand Central Station (Friends With Benefits)?

3. They set too high of expectations for the "win-back" act.

So when men in our lives do come back to us with a text, a call, or an unexpected conversation when you bump into them out at the bar, it is an extreme letdown. We have been raised watching princes scale entire cities looking for just one girl who fits a glass slipper. We have seen the grand romantic gestures time and time again. Therefore, we create fantasies of them returning to our lives with an unimaginable romantic gesture, one from the movies. Sure, we might not have thought they would realistically happen, but when they don't, we get bummed.

4. They make us wonder, why not us?

When you see a male protagonist fall immediately in love with the leading lady by just catching her glance from across a crowded room, it seems so easy and so bashert. Upon a mere glance at this lovely woman, he is determined to somehow meet her and court her. We don't speak for all girls here, but this just does not happen. Mostly girls are shocked if the guy they have been locking eyes with all night walks over at all, let alone makes it his sole mission to sweep her off her feet.

5. They make us feel like we should be in a relationship.

Even people who are super happy being single start to question whether they are ready to jump back on the dating bandwagon upon viewing an epic romance story. The characters on screen envelop us and tug at our heartstrings. Seeing two people seem quite literally drunk in love, while exchanging cheeky glances and passionate moments, makes us miss intimacy and love.

6. They neglect the small fact that love takes work.

In romantic comedies, when a boy and a girl meet, it always seems like destiny. Whether they started as best friends, hated each other at the beginning of the movie, or fell in love at first sight, their love conquers all. In real life, we'd love to believe that love always conquers all! Sure, you can find that storybook romance, but after a certain amount of time, you've gotta work at it. Rom-coms just make it seem so easy to find love and maintain it, which isn't the reality we're dealing with. Further, most of our beloved flicks end conveniently right at the time the couple finds themselves back together, where in real life the work begins.

We will always love romantic comedies; it's just the way it is. However, if you find yourself semidepressed or spoon deep in a pint of ice cream while watching one, know you are not alone! They get us all!