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Why Won't Boyfriend Have Sex With Me?

Group Therapy: Why Won't He Have Sex With Me?

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My boyfriend and I moved in together two months ago. It's been great — we are more emotionally attached than ever before, and we are loving living together. But whenever I try to get him "turned on" he always changes the subject or says he's not in the mood. It's now been four months since we've had sex.

Here is where I am confused. We've been dating for 10 months total, and sex for the first 1-6 months was GREAT. But for the last four months he would be more than happy to sexually please me but he won't let me do anything to sexually please him, and we definitely won't have sex.

When I talk to him about it he says that he hasn't "needed sex" and that it has nothing to do with me. He admits that he is still very attracted to me, despite his lack of lust for me. This situation, for one, makes me feel like I am not attractive, and secondly, I feel horrible because he refused to have sex with me even though he would still be willing to "please" me in place of having sex.

I don't know what to do about this. I have tried explaining how I feel about not having sex for the last four months but nothing seems to change the situation. I end up making him feel bad, and I leave the conversation feeling worse. This is really hurting me and I am afraid that it is going to hurt our relationship. Actually, I know that if things continue the way that they are now, this will definitely hurt our relationship. I can only put up with his lack of a sexual appetite so much.

Any suggestions as to what I should do in this situation?

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