Not everyone is good at everything. Maybe your man is a passionate kisser, sensitive listener, and makes a delicious Eggplant Parm, but when it comes to pleasing you, his skills are slightly lacking. One common complaint I hear from women is that they aren't satisfied when it comes to oral sex. So ladies, if your man seems to be lost when he goes below the belt, don't give up! I'm sure he's really trying hard to please you, so here are some suggestions on how to help make it happen.
- Maybe there's a problem with logistics. Propping your hips up by placing a pillow under your bum will make it easier for him to reach you. This will also prevent him from getting lower back or neck pain.
- If what he's doing isn't pleasing you at all, don't fake it. Help him out a little by letting him know what you do like. Give his some specific directions, even guide him with your own hands. At first it may be difficult (and perhaps a little embarrassing), but if you don't ask for what you want, you're not going to get it.
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- When he does do something right, be sure let him know. If you're not into verbalizing your pleasure, a little moan or a squeeze on his shoulder will let him know you like what he's doing.
- Everyone likes something different so be patient — it might just take a little time for him to get to know what makes you tick.